Well, I just picked up a new dining room table today - a real mid-century teak table - nothing fancy and it needs work but I FINALLY have a table that is the right size and style for my dining room. It needs a little bit of work but it beats the falling apart Ikea table I had for years and the free, nice but wrong…

A friend did the same thing - nearly - the house she just bought is actually smaller than her apartment but she’s also had two late teens at the time and they’ve (mostly) moved on ... she essentially bought herself a yard (and is starting a victory garden too, chickens will come later). And no more crazy neighbors / ho…

Watching Ellen’s show makes me cringe. Especially when she has audience (99% female) participants in her games. She comes off as a HUGE MYSOGINIST.
The games are often crass or demeaning.

Ever see the “Gold Digger” game on her show? The person selected to play is put in a telephone booth sized box and money is…

I won’t take a picture rn bc I’m not too sober and it seems way complicated but... long story... I started working on creating the space I’d always wanted, which included an office ‘nook’ in my 600 sf condo about three years ago.
At some point in my life, I realized I didn’t really like working at home but the space…

My former boss, who was a woman, was also a mysoginist. That was my point in agreeing with the poster above. She spouted the ‘rah rah woman can do it all’ when she talked, but in action - she put me down and kissed my incompetent male co-workers asses.

I was taught the “states rights” version of the Civil War and that slavery was one of the issues. And I think even my teachers were like “it’s really about slavery” but never in a way that made you think that there were still issues.
I know I learned about Reconstruction and Jim Crow. And I continue to reflect upon…

For fun edgy make up ideas, I’ve really enjoyed this feed:

I had a lady boss in my previous and it was one of the most toxic work place environments I’d ever been in - particularly because this woman touted the ‘we can do it’ Rosie the Riveter lip service, however she definitely assigned work on what she thought women should preform (‘interiors’) and men (‘big outside’ ) proje…

My most recent crush was more of ‘knuckledragger’ - so not so pretty and actually pretty smart but a very basic dude. And always positive and ‘can do’. Great to be around.

I think the biggest issue I’ve had with the enginerds is over thinking everything, whereas the Himbo is more likely to just ‘go for it’. There’s value in both approaches to life and for my life now, the later is preferable.

After a lifetime of dating Turbo Nerds*... I say bring on the HIMBO!
My last few crushes have been a variation on Himbo and I’m ok with that.

Last week, I wrote about my friendship that was on the rocks. I’d like to thank everyone for confirming that I am free to walk away, which is really what I want to do. I do believe I should give her the courtesy of a reason and that it’s not a total cutoff but it’s just that I don’t want to interact with her for a…

I think I will only have our one mutual friend, the one I told “Please don’t invite Karen to everything”, which she of course ignored because the mutual friend has her own issues (lack of boundaries and an autistic father so she has championed this woman who does not need anyone’s help.)

Yes to all that. With the previous car, she scratched my console. And for the next year and a half, every time I got in my car, all I could think about is the time that she did that. So aggravating. 

I don’t expect her to change. I totally expect her to get mad.

I am trying to fade out - but the more I back away - the more relentless she has become. I’m actually a little worried that she is becoming a little unhinged. Time will tell - but I am trying to fade away.

What I foresee is that I point out the damage and she shrugs it off.

So, you’re right in that it probably wouldn’t change anything and I don’t want to give her that much energy. 

Yes, I’m trying to do good but in the end this my self-care. I just can’t do it anymore and I don’t want to have to just piss her off to get rid of her.

Oh, I totally suspect she is on the spectrum. But she also recognizes that she is in trouble with me and is unfortunately going about things the wrong way. She grew up upper middle class and definitely has that attitude of her opinion is right and she is more than qualified to share it. She is also the youngest of…

I know, I’m trying not to be so angry because it’s a waste of energy.