I don’t expect her to change. I totally expect her to get mad.

I am trying to fade out - but the more I back away - the more relentless she has become. I’m actually a little worried that she is becoming a little unhinged. Time will tell - but I am trying to fade away.

What I foresee is that I point out the damage and she shrugs it off.

So, you’re right in that it probably wouldn’t change anything and I don’t want to give her that much energy. 

Yes, I’m trying to do good but in the end this my self-care. I just can’t do it anymore and I don’t want to have to just piss her off to get rid of her.

Oh, I totally suspect she is on the spectrum. But she also recognizes that she is in trouble with me and is unfortunately going about things the wrong way. She grew up upper middle class and definitely has that attitude of her opinion is right and she is more than qualified to share it. She is also the youngest of…

I know, I’m trying not to be so angry because it’s a waste of energy.

Has anyone done an intervention with a friend because of personality issues?

Uhm, nobody mentioned “it puts the lotion on or it get the hose” - like, after fava beans and chianti - what else is there?

I looked into immigrating to New Zealand after the ‘hanging chad’ election of Bush II. It required a fair amount of paperwork and some money, plus I had just settled into a new city that I really liked (and still live in)... and I never thought things could really ‘go wrong’... and that better times were ahead. 

*this*

I have a couple of ‘good’ ones... here are two:

CONGRATULATIONS!
Don’t feel bad for the good things in your life ever - just try to pay it forward when you can.

I too have things pretty good (currently) - and I while I don’t feel guilty (I’ve worked hard on myself to get where I am) - and I am so grateful, really! I try to give back and help others as well. 

That looks SNACKTASTIC

I am a huge advocate for a wine spritzer: half (sauvignon blanc) white wine and half plain seltzer water with a few ice cubes, in a double tall glass. Half the calories and twice the fun (and less likely to be hung, you’re drinking water right along with your wine intake, no need to switch!)

And like another commenter…

If put on my eyebrows and a little bit of mascara for my neighborhood walks, does it count?

You must go check out Largent, The Adventure Dog:

I am a huge Max Richter fan and of his work with Max Cooper.
Another suggestion: It’s a little bit more up and down in energy, but I just discovered Ludovico Einaudi, Seven Days Walking, a seven album work with that is the same album for every “day” but variations. It’s at once heartbreaking and joyful.
Ascent is by…

Congratulations on your next phase in life! and don’t look back.
ETA: I’ve so often been on the other side (laid off with very little notice) that when I finally had the right offer and opportunity, I made sure I very nicely resigned (I work in a small field and my well known boss at the time is also a vindictive…

My boomer uncle, who was always a little off and of course is a trumper, called me out of concern. Of course he starts out soft, but then always has to start in on how bad things could’ve been if ‘Killary’ had been in charge.

Yes, it’s just this one person in particular and they are pretty thoughtless. They are also retired and don’t have a lot of friends due to ‘difficult personality’ that is never going to change. I’ve kind of been backing out of the friendship the past six months and if I could totally check out I would