I'm with you. I stay at home and while I am a feminist, the decision wasn't a feminist one - it was mostly just a pragmatic one. I hope my kids (both my boys and my daughter) see being a stay at home parent as a valid contribution to society, but I'd never want them to feel pressured to leave the workplace if they…

Actually, my oldest - of three - is in first grade, and I work out a babysitting trade with another parent so that I can volunteer in his class because our schools are so shortchanged - I am definitely not the only one. We have parents in our classroom every day trying to keep our school running after devastating…

F you. Seriously. I'm home with three small kids and it's freaking exhausting. Yes, sometimes I read Jezebel or the news or check Facebook (hey look, YOU'RE HERE TOO! What?! your job - whatever it is because clearly i know everything about you based on your nominal online presence - is sooooo easy.) because…

It doesn't seem radical, just tedious. We have a joint account and live in a common property state. Half of everything is already mine, and we make financial decisions jointly.

Maybe if we weren't all brainwashed into believing that we're nothing if we're not attractive (or even the hottest thing in the room at all times), this wouldn't be an issue. As it is, if someone criticizes a woman's appearance, they're undercutting her worth as a woman.

Gah. I live in peril of this. My oldest, especially when he was younger, just spoke constantly in metaphor. When he was two, if he was upset he'd say something along the lines of "You've broken my beautiful nest and now I don't have a nest to go home to any more!" If I scolded him about something, he'd scream,…

As a musician who always worked somewhat disposable jobs so I could focus on rehearsing/gigging, when I had babies, there was little chance that I would be able to employ someone for less than I'd earn working any of my previous jobs. Would handing 7/8s of my salary as a yoga teacher/art model/health food store…

All this to say: F-You to these women. They are not feminists and they do not speak for me.

I grew up in a dual-income household (where my mother actually substantially out-earned my father), where cooking, cleaning, and child rearing were equitably distributed between my parents. Both of my grandmothers worked outside the home. I never wished my mother was home with me when I got home from school, and…

They have stores, but I usually just go to their website - titlenine.com

Ha! This made me laugh out loud because I am currently wearing a pair of yoga pants that are pinned to my underwear - it's the only way I can get them to stay up! And I really just can't justify $100+ on pants for want of a couple safety pins.

This conviction makes me slightly nervous as well, though I haven't seen all the evidence. I DO think he should be stripped of his badge and serve maximum jail time for illegal use of the police database, stalking, etc. I'm not sure about a lifetime sentence for the intent to commit a crime, though. I'd like to…

I guess we could use "receptive" and "active" (though to be "sexually active" usually means something else entirely...). A man exhibiting more sexually receptive body language might be called feminine or gay, both of which have negative cultural currency. Demanding that we adhere to our preassigned gendered norms is…

I think these images actually underscore my point - the poses do not only present passivity, but actually serve to make the models themselves objects whose sole purpose is to elicit desire on the part of the viewer. When we see men in these positions, we can't help but wonder about the men themselves - what they're…

While it's true that men are supposed to appear effortlessly handsome (though this really varies pretty dramatically culture to culture, even within the US), and some men are afraid that complimenting another man's appearance might make him seem - oh no! - gay, I think the biggest reason men aren't expected to seek…

But our obsession with sexual display seems grotesquely disproportionate to our biological imperative to find mates and/or reproduce. I'm not saying this is inherently bad or wrong, but I think some aspects of this constant, almost kabuke theater-style, larger than life demonstration of our desirability is…

I've taught my three small children to always ask a dog/cat's "grownup" for permission before petting an unfamiliar animal. It doesn't seem unreasonable that other adult humans can and should learn to do the same.

Lucky for you, I think there are plenty of men who would enjoy being objectified, at least in the confines of the bedroom. And lucky for them, they by in large get to choose whether or not to be objectified, whereas women are fair game for sexual objectification every time they leave the house.

I'm not saying I'm never attracted to men in photos, or that I'm incapable of admiring their appearance. But it's pretty darned rare that I'm actually aroused by photographs of them. Could just be me.

I should probably note that while I am in a long-term, monogamous relationship with a man, I am not straight-identified, so perhaps someone who is can better speak to this phenomenon?