Whether or not the fetus is viable, a woman cannot be deemed a "vessel." For me, it comes down to whether you see women as a "vessel" or as a person. Got it? There is NO similar situation for men.

I just realized why I don't like this article and ones similar to it. This is a feminist website, right? So what's with the tearing down of other women? (he he unless they are hopelessly retrograde and trying to force their views on other women through political movements). Better to be happy an actor is making a…

Your last two sentences - yes, totally fucked up. I didn't buy any of that sh*t that I was supposed to grin and bear it.

This.

That's why I say most. I know for some people real disorders set in, hormones change and so on. In a general sense, when there are no issues that come up healthwise, this expectation that you've got to be "on" 24/7 and everything is centered around the kid, and people lose their before-kid identities, can really do…

I am 100% convinced that lack of sleep and lack of support (no network of family/friends to give parents a break) coupled with the insane child-centeredness/hovering that is asked of parents is responsible for most of what is written above.

I was older than you when I finally took the plunge. The guy was pretty awesome, an excellent experienced lover and a good person overall. Whatever you decide will be fine as long as you are fine with it.

Short answer: get with guys who don't have some porn fantasy in their heads that you are simply a prop to fulfill. A good sexual partner is one who wants you to enjoy everything as much as he is.

There is something to be said to just get some experience under your belt (no pun intended). There isn't some magic number for any of this (number you sleep with or number you are when it happens.) I lost mine late and the guy I lost it to didn't believe me until the act (in a flattering no way could someone as…

Pretty Girl at the Airport by the Avett Brothers

Peter Dinklage...Peter...Peeetteer...mmm. Sexiest small man on the planet.

Um...someone that would talk to you like that...maybe you are better off. I know it doesn't feel like that right now. Get some DVDs and ice cream, settle in. You deserve much, much more.

What is a BPI analyst?

Yes, thank you, ugh. I hate these presumptions. I am very average looking at best, but some very good-looking guys are looking for more. Is that so unbelievable? #beenwiththehotties

Agreed. Other adults, whether related to you or not, would say something to you. Or one or two dirty looks would put you in your place. If your parents weren't doing anything (which I never saw happen) you would have probably gotten an earful from other adults or the manager. Not tolerated.

Truer words never said. I found out that 1/2 my friends were...well not friends. But then I picked up more than enough replacements among...guess where...other new moms.

+1000

I completely agree with everything you wrote. You may come to a different conclusion after thinking it over, mine was to go ahead and be an older mom. I can say that if I'd been a mother say at 25, God help the kid. I was so not ready in all the ways you list above at that age despite any physical superiority I…

My problem with the article is the title is misleading. Within the article, IVF=more birth defects, but the title is "Older Women", not "IVF". That's a whole different ball of wax.

It's your choice, and if it works for you, don't let anyone else try to judge you for it. You can go out and start making the work life before you're 30 if you want, not a bad way to do it at all.