Be careful, because manipulative-as-fuck people also volunteer. They are people who want to be seen as kind, compassionate, spiritual, etc, but are actually very egocentric. My aunt just broke up with a guy who volunteers at a vipassana center about 3-4x a year as well as volunteers at a Hospice center. Seriously, the…

It was so funny to me that they decided to kick off SNS this week with some Duckie love. I just had a conversation with a friend this week about how much of a shady motherfucker Duckie is in Pretty in Pink. And two days after that conversation, I saw this on Salon: http://www.salon.com/2016/02/27/the…

As other people have said, your partner needs professional help and you can’t fix them. I’m the depressed person in my relationship, and it clouds my thoughts and judgement. There are times I don’t think my fiance is doing enough, and there are times I feel needy and clingy and like I don’t deserve love at all.…

And no, you aren’t an unsung hero because your dream girl doesn’t dream of you. You’re a bad best friend for not respecting her decisions and thinking that means her love for you isn’t worth anything.

Annie Potts KILLS IT in this film. I remember wishing to meet adults just like her.

You are NOT failing her! Just because things can’t be magically fixed doesn’t mean your love and effort mean nothing!

You’re not failing her. You’re doing the best you can with limited support.

That’s awesome! I’m a single homeowner and I really should be taking classes like this, especially plumbing. I think my plumbing is cursed.

I am either tired or drunk because I read your first sentence as “I have a HUGE crush on my friend, Jesus Christ” and I really didn’t know where it was going to go from there. Er, I hope it works out for you and the Jeez.

Hey, I’m no Obi-Wan, but even I can see that you know exactly what you have to do. You just don’t wanna do it.

heya jezzies. wasn’t gonna post anything because I’ve had a pretty uneventful week, but my neighbors just started with either band rehearsal or a party and my walls are vibrating. I’m pretty convinced that the bass in most songs can be used as a torture device when transmitted through walls. I dunno what it is but it…

I love Clover for a girl. I think it's so fresh and upbeat. It's different, but not too different, and easy to spell.

So today and last Saturday, I spent 6 hours in “basic home electrical repair” class at a local community college— I bought a house a little over a year ago and wanted to (formally) learn how to do some basic electrical repairs: switching out a light fixturr, switch, or outlet.

I impulse-bought a box of discounted See’s Candy, leftover from Valentine’s Day, and absent-mindedly set it on my bed when I got home and went about my business. I just looked up and had a moment of self-awareness: I’m sitting on my bed, hunched over my laptop, surrounded by cats and a heart-shaped box of chocolate I…

what the ever loving fuck is up with this pro duckie bullshit? Is it your contention that every nice guy that wants you gets to have you? The sheer strength of his desire trumps her wants? Fuck off with that Stockholm nonsense

I just had my last day babysitting. I’m finishing my barista job and starting something new - caregiving for a beloved relative while I finish my PhD thesis (85% done!)

a.) Sometime’s when someone is depressed, they may feel lonely and like they have no friends but simultaneously they are unable to enjoy or participate in social interactions. And sometimes it can be downright painful to be in a room of people who are easily enjoying the social exchange when they can’t. Try to be…

Typical dating update. Had a great wonderful date with a feminist funny dude and we are seeing each other again next week. Very happy to have faith in humanity restored.

Duckie was a creep. He stalked Andie and was the perfect example of a “Nice Guy.” Thank god she didn’t end up with him, she probably would have had to take out a restraining order on him.

No, she shouldn’t have ended up with Duckie! Duckie is the proto-Nice Guy.