Yes, exactly. It’s called skating for pride, and many of the greats of the sport have done it. I will always remember Kurt Browning’s long program in Lillehammer, skated with such gusto after completely cocking up the short.

Good for you. I find the insistence that victims of every kind of crime forgive “for themselves,” and usually asap, such bullshit. It is one more burden to put on people who don’t need any more. This idea that the only options are forgiveness or being eaten up inside thinking about the person who wronged you for the…

As for me, I’ve started asking, “How come you want these victims to ‘get over it,’ yet if anyone suggested the same about 9/11, you’d blow a gasket?” I’ve never gotten a response.

Another element of himpathy is the push for forgiveness and healing — sometimes literal days after the action. But when people say “forgiveness,” what they really mean it moving on, being over the transgression, and never mentioning the incident again. We’ve become so focused on that, that we don’t realize that…

What is with the dudes in their 30s thinking women their own age are “too old” for them? I know there’s the whole “oh no, women in their 30s want babies” stereotype, or worse, when the men think they will eventually want to settle down and have kids “someday” but aren’t ready yet (and thus only want to date women that…

Ageism thread. I’m 45...never married, no kids. I date younger guys and I’m newly unemployed and going through some really hard times. I seem to be experiencing some serious ageism with companies/hiring and with people who have an issue with me dating guys in their 20’s. I’m so frustrated and hate feeling shamed. Not…

One of my favourite 30 Rock episodes is when he is Liz Lemon’s dumb as a post but pretty boyfriend and she takes him places,  insisting that he be treated as a normal (i.e., average looking) person.

Jezebel, What Are You Doing? Days of silence on the topic, and then what comes forth is not actually the thinkpiece on sexual coercion and the “ways consent can feel blurring”, on how predators purposefully use bullshit excuses about “miscommunication” to get away with it, about how Ansari is more representative of…

There was some overlap in commenters yesterday who posted their tributes to O’Riordan, and then went on to participate in a thread about how your M&M preference is indicative of your mental health. This was pretty frustrating to read, since I have firsthand knowledge of the fact that when a healthy young person dies…

It also allows institutions to blacklist you, completely ruin your career, and somehow elevate your harasser.

Please don’t loose the feeling that it’s ok to be alone at any age! As a 35-year old widow who lost her husband to the bottle, I see so many of my sistern getting married now because they are terrified of being alone and the social stigma that carries. I want to tell them there are far worse things than being alone.…

This is good.

Thank you for writing this and the When Can I say I’ll be Alone Forever article! People are continually sold the lie that if they just try A,B,C then everything will fall into place and they’ll meet someone. The reality is too scary. It’s hard, love is fucking mean. And really great people sometimes never partner up,…

I am 60 years old. In case it helps, I’m going to tell you what I know.

I appreciate your vulnerability in writing all this.

Back in the olden days before cell phones and interwebs you could go out with someone, even more than once, and because things were slower, communication less instant and constant, getting ghosted was less painful. Answering machines were wonky, roommates flaky with messages, numbers juxtaposed, rejection was just…

I’m still in the relationship and could list all the dirty laundry now. You don’t talk about it while you’re together because you want everyone else in your life to support your decision to ignore those things. He doesn’t have that list, but the ability to ignore negative things in his life, hoping they’ll go away, is…

Aimee, I’m not going to tell you you’ll find someone or you won’t die alone or the right guy is out there but you need to relax.

It must be nice to not get shot after kicking a cop.

Okc is so much better for dating. Instead of just a picture, I can see off the bat that that really cute dude is a republican and the average looking dude is intelligent and likes the things I like. I just reactivated after getting dumped by my partner of several years (who I met on okc). If the ruin okc I will…