Men rarely understand the precautions women need to make in our day-to-day lives.

Nothing about the Black girl murdered by the white supremecist in S.F.

“but we need to acknowledge the world we live in.”

He was not undocumented and he was actually brought here to work on a GOP official’s farm in IOWA. 

I'm going to go out on a limb and guess that this trash person isn't going to mention a word about the upcoming expiration of the violence against women act in her upcoming screeds either.

You mean like all the dead black kids who might still be alive if they’d just “Not acted in a ‘threatening’ manner around police officers,” or some other bullshit excuse? Yeah, every death is a tragedy, but we’re making a big deal out of one specific KIND of act of violence in a country OVERFLOWING with all manner of…

One white guy murders his entire family in cold blood. Another white guy stabs his infant child to death. Yet another white guy kills his wife. And they’re all just on-again-off-again news blips. Ya know, no big deal and all that.

Thanks for writing this. 

Everyone is a fucking expert on things they didn’t do in situations they weren’t in, and on how to lecture and browbeat people who are already hurting. Precious few are experts (or even beginners) at accepting that It's Not About Them long enough to help and support the victim. 

You are adult men, not feral, hyper-sexualized children.

> How can I look a black boy in his face and tell him he is nothing?

Not that you don’t feel sick, shocked and either blank or flooded with thoughts in that moment; You don’t owe that boy shit. You don’t owe any boy, no matter how much he reminds you of your brother, cousin, best friend from 3rd grade, your safety, your body, or your silence.  Even if he's a Black one, and many are…

Part of the reason that many black men and boys feel entitled to treat black woman and girls in this way is because they believe (and see very little in society to contradict that belief,) that no one cares about what happens to black women. Black women need to work hard not to internalize this…

I carry a knife, pepper spray and have a concealed carry we emit because I've had too many of these interactions. And I have been taken behind that tree

A very similar encounter happened to me one evening in DC, near Gallery Place metro. His words, “bitch, I’ll rape you” because I wasn’t receptive to his advances. He was with a large group of friends, they laughed because threatening rape to intimidate a woman is hilarious, of course. One of the worst feelings in the…

I’m sorry. We’ve all been there, sadly. 

I can’t imagine...

This is why I carry bear repellent. 

This was terrifying to read. I went through this same thing and I’m glad you made it out unharmed. 

I’m sorry that happened to you.  You shouldn’t have had to deal with that.  No one should have to deal with that.