Yeah I think life is often pretty weird and random, and a lot of time the narratives of our life stories only make sense after they’ve already happened. I don’t know at what point I would never have left my husband- at what point it becomes the thing that you’ve built your life around rather than a potential thing you…

So true. I love my husband to bits, we’ve been together for twelve years, no money is worth all the time and commitment we’ve given each other. I also recognize that it is entirely down to chance that we met. We met on match.com, and it was the first day I had signed up, and he was going to quit match and try…

Yes if someone asked me that NOW, I’d say the same. I’ve been married for almost twenty years. There’s no amount of money that could replace that.

But if you had asked me the same question, say 17 years ago, when I was desperately poor and in a three year relationship with a wonderful man who I loved, I’d have left for…

And interestingly they never think that perhaps THEY’D be the ones moving to support their lady friend.

And it never goes the other way around, conveniently. I once had a guy rescind the offer of a second date because he found out about my post-graduation job (diplomatic service) and he was immediately like ‘NOPE!’ as though my career was the problem and not his lack of conversational skills.

Yeah, if someone asked me to choose between my husband or a million dollars, I would choose my husband. We’re lucky in that we’re fine. We’re not rolling in money or anything, but we can pay our bills and have money left over. We’re also legally entangled, so it would probably eat up a lot of that million dollars…

AVOCADO TOAST

Every relationship I’ve had has ended not because of interpersonal problems, but because of jobs. Relocation specifically.

But... but I thought we were lazy and refused to work? Now it turns out we’re actually heartless, career-driven monsters? Gosh, I just can’t keep our role in society straight.

The amount of delusion in that statement. Statistically there are more white people on welfare since they are the majority of the population. There are entire red states where nearly everyone is on welfare. And in fact I know that red states don’t pay their fair share and subsist on my blue state money that’s…

They did not drink Koolaid, it was Flavoraid.

I don’t really understand the issue. Is it because they think it’ll be distracting from the art on display? Which seems kind of a weird and lame reason - what am I missing?

I have probably said this a thousand times since Charlottesville:

Sadly those homicides are usually committed against women and children, some of whom aren’t dedicated gun fuckers.

The “ATF/FBI burned it down” is the pernicious lie of the right wing. Koresh and his people burned themselves and their children alive. I hope there’s an afterlife.

This place really, seriously needs editors.

Because, as the title now says, you were right about your misgivings the first time.

A black woman who was 22-years-old when she escaped an encampment in Jonestown, Guyana, site of the infamous “Don’t drink the Kool-Aid” suicide-massacre, has come forward to tell her story in a new documentary.

Hi, editor here. You have her escaping at 22 years old, the year the Jonestown Massacre happened (1978), which means she was born in 1956, and that would make her a 62-year-old grandmother, not 47. Not sure what part of this is wrong but your math is super wonky. Also, the headline would be more accurate if it read…

You know this site and writers on it have had no issue bashing the democratic party but let’s be clear, there is a place in it for people of color to promote and talk about the issues that are important to them and other people of color. Can any person of color stop fucking pretending that such a place exists in the…