I don’t trust men to check men. I trust me to be loud and belligerent if I’m approached or get rapey vibes. My finger has pressed the 9 and the 1, the next move better be his/a right move.
Tiffany
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When it comes to talking about sexual assault, I’ve noticed that men (in some cases, I’ve heard some things from fellow women), hold onto this notion that rapists are strangers in baklavas and holding knives. But, when I mention that all of my rapists were men that I grew up with, they consider me to be the exception.
*sigh*
Yessss. This is everything.
I agree, but just because something can be done a certain way doesn’t mean that’s the best way to do it. That might be better in some instances for sure, but I think there are times that boys need their own space to be free from the judgement of girls just as girls benefit from breaks from the judgement of boys. Boy…
What are you even on about? I know we need surgeons, but do you honestly think that people should have everything just because they want to have everything? I’m saying that some professions are not conducive for having kids.
The point is that there may never be a good time. People choose their professions mostly. Along with making the decision to become a highly educated professional that has to spend a decade preparing for said profession comes choices as to what you can and cannot have. Sometimes these choices are hard, but they are…
Maybe men and women shouldn’t have children during this time if it’s such a grueling schedule. Life isn’t fair, choices have to be made.
Even if that were true* (“just as many women that act just as shitty”), there’d have to be just as many women in roles of power, which for sure isn’t true.
She will never, never ever, admit her the life she sought and got is complete ass. I’m a big believer that many of society’s ills stem from people not being able to face the truth about themselves.
A lot of women are afraid of the rejection that comes with articulating heartfelt needs/ desires, etc. Yeah speaking up for yourself is great & all, but there are consequences that come w/ being about that life- gotta be prepared to handle it.
Shouldn’t we, as women, be more pissed that we have to train men like dogs in order to act like responsible, thoughtful humans?
“The toxic masculinity in these stories is the assumption that each of the young men, regardless of age, should have been tough enough to avoid being raped and should have been strong enough to resolve what happened to him.”
THIS, THIS, AND MORE THIS. Its the oldest trick in the book, feign incompetence and someone will do the work for you. NO NOPE NAH
I mean, who even gives a shit about the pop country act the dude accused of rape was touring with? It just comes across as dismissing the accusation and making it sounds like what you care about is the alleged rapist getting scorned by some country music singer because he’s black (and not, you know, arrested for…
“99.999% of black people know this is vile shit.”
Abusive men. I have to believe there are two types of people in this world: Abusive & Non-Abusive. Every other word we attribute after to the person is just an adjective (gender, sexual preference, race, job title, etc) that describes either an abusive or non-abusive person.
Somehow it never seems to work that. Gay men and men of color have no problem seeing their own oppression, but they’re still very quick to downplay or deny what happens to women. White women have no problem seeing their own oppression, but they’re still very quick to deny what happens to people of color. And people…
Good read. It had that thing I like. Nuance. Not gonna read the comments which will be filled with ignorant hate rants against anyone who claims Christianity spewed by people who pretend to be intelligent and open minded.