Work out how much a housekeeper would cost him. That is what you are saving him.

I just moved out from my partner. He is a hoarder (who drinks and smokes to excess, so there is a range of problems). I have a deteriorating mobility disability from a spinal injury (car crash 2006). And I was falling over. Hurting myself. And he couldn't see a problem. A girlfriend came over and said "honey, this…

Hail and well met, fellow Antipodean!* Nice to have a fellow Aussie on the boards.

Are you Australian by any chance? Never heard anyone but a compatriot use that particular compliment (which has frightened many an unaware foreign student, I have come to learn...)

I'll bring chocolate and we can drink wine and eat chocolate and be the ones giggling in the corner they glare disapprovingly at;)

Are we twins??? If so, hey long lost sib! If not, hey soul sister:)

I have an agender child of 20, (who was female identified at birth but now identifies as agender), and prefers more masculine pronouns if they cannot be gender neutral, (they or them is the preferred pronoun usage). Their name has been shortened to an ambiguous, non gender specific variant, and they wear feminine and…

I believe it is also a Rifftrax goody to seek out:)

Yes, I have to clothes and makeup, absolutely. My research partner - daggy shorts and shirts. He can do it, but I value my professional career. He is secure, I am not. So...the game is to be played.

Yep - female and older Comp Sci lecturer - and disabled to boot. Some cultures struggle more than others (not overall, 90% of the culture I am thinking of are wonderful 0- but 10% throw their weight around to get their way - especially at grading, when after a semester of non participation, they are shocked to be…

Honey, what works for you works for you:) But cultivating a support network may be beneficial, if, with a youngling in tow, you get sick, for example. Been there, done that....and hugs and good luck from an Antipodean stranger:)

Little man was enormous in NICU at 6 pounds (give or take a gram, hazy few days). He and I had a traumatic emergency (in every sense) c0section - we both nearly died. He inhaled meconium, and it took forceps after he slipped back in twice (transverse makes it HARD to get a kid out). He actually had to be resuscitated…

It depends. If you don't think it is weird then it isn't. If you are feeling the gap in your life now it is pointed out then try making circle of people you know better where you are - get to know your friendly people better, etc. But if you are just thinking about it from the (weirdly judgemental) response of these…

I am much older and wiser now at nearly 48, and am just moving out on a much cherished but not working relationship. Kind of, he takes for granted but loves me, but is a man child in many ways, incredibly reliable in others, and a super amazing dad. But for any future, I am moving out and we will have to do this…

I use it for chronic pain. And depression from disability /pain and just the genetic draw (thanks for generational depression, money would have been a better inheritance choice). And it is CRITICAL. Medication for pain does about 40% tops, the only way to not feel pain is to be unconscious. Without CBT I don't work or…

I have talked. It isn't even about the chores. He got a mattress for the bed and it was too hard, so I slept on a bed in the lounge room. Six months later, he has spent 100s on restoring old machinery he is interested in, which I am fine with normally - but has not bothered replacing the mattress. Yep, I am living in…

All over the world, people are smiling through tears and crying through laughter for you and Purm. A little light and love comes to you from Australia. I hope the cumulative love and light helps ease the wrenching pain you are in, if only a little...the world is indeed diminished. No man is an island...

I felt that way when my munchkins were small. Now the last one is 11, three are adult, second to last starts high school next year - well, career opportunity knocked and (given my disability), I was NOT going to turn it down!!

I do think society does NOT support men being the stay at home parent, and needs to normalise this, FAST. My dad was a single parent, and i always assumed either parent could be stay at home, you just take turns depending on the family's needs and career options at the time...

Oh this. So much this. Add in the complication of disability with chronic pain.