I’m an introvert and borderline misanthrope, I view office parties as punishment for having a full time job. Socializing in a large group setting is painful for me after about 15 minutes and from that point on I’m basically thinking how much longer do I have to spend around these people before I can respectfully say…

when we’re telling Mark about the latest business report presentation, that’s what we’re doing. Not flirting while envisioning our favourite porn video with Mark’s face photoshopped in.

I’m seeing two general categories of responses from the the more distressed males in this thread. 1) Calls for complete segregation of the sexes. 2) Sea Lion existential pondering (“what is sex anyway? who can say”). Both come across as attempts to create a back door justification of the status quo. The only reason to…

I think Pencing (did I just coin a word?) will be a key part of what will soon be a ferocious backlash: Women getting frozen out of informal networking opportunities because men claim they need to protect their reputation against being falsely accused by someone who is unconditionally believed.

I know man, I asked this woman in the break room if I could put a ball gag in her mouth, tie her up and fuck her on the table and the bitch went straight to HR! Like, she could’ve just said no and I’d have backed off!!

NARRATOR: He was.

He seems heavily invested in not understanding that.

You & the other commenters are being far more patient with this individual than I would be. His whole line of argument just reeks of bad faith. But good on you for your generosity!

“Sometimes one miscalculates” lol. I’m feeling generous this morning so I’ll grant that he’s just being obtuse and not a complete troll, but you’ve really got to have your head up your ass to think “would you like to watch me masturbate?” is an OK question to ask someone who has not previously expressed substantial sex…

This has been another edition of Things You Should Not Need To Be Told.

Sure that’s probably true, but it was also widely understood that #1 making a move to hold hands or kiss was a date-specific situation and if you were doing it outside that (like a work setting) it was scummy, and #2 if you say, lean in for a kiss and she turns her head away , backs up, etc that means she is not…

People knew right from wrong. No one who wasn’t a complete scumbag went on a date thinking “let me grab her tits and see how it goes.” You’d maybe start by trying to hold ends and see how she reacted. And if she indicated that she liked that, go from there. “Putting the moves on” says to me persistent, heedless…

I was dude in 1981. We understood then.

That “if it’s true” formulation is the same one Republicans are using with Roy Moore. As Ruby and others have pointed out, prosecutions of sexual harassment/assault are rarely done, and rarely successful, because the burden of proof in a criminal case and the nature of the crime makes obtaining a conviction very…

This is a fantastic comment and I hope it gets ungreyed.

Got it. Sheesh you’ve got sharp eyes, I had to magnify the door to see the curve.

I believe it was Robertson Davies who wrote “art is a distillation of what is best in us.”

Sorry, should’ve ended with /s.

Jesus that’s awful. I hope they all get the help they need.

me culpa my point stands