Not directing this specifically at you, but yeh this is sounding like a competition to be the most downtrodden. Pain is pain. Some things don’t hurt so much but are life threatening, but a paper cut in salt water, ouch. It occurs to me that you can’t deny the pain of others or gain something by comparing them, but the…

You’re both playing identity politics. Just stop. Being more disadvantaged than someone else doesn’t give you any moral high ground. this is exactly why this crazy lady became black. Because it gave her power in the weird identity politic world of a modern university.

I just experienced this at my last job. A bunch of the bearded rednecks thought they were making hilarious comments about our asian customers and kept saying ‘oriental’ and talking about how much their luggage stinks (it was an airline) and when i said i was asian they went, “oh my god we thought you were mexican we…

I understand what you’re saying because I experience it being triracial but still looking really Fing white. It’s not the SAME kind of discrimination, but it’s the kind that puts you in the uncomfortable unasked for position of being a traitor against who you are and your family and community against your will…

I’m a dark skin, visibly Hispanic guy and I occasionally get the, “Oh that remark doesn’t apply to you, you’re not really Mexican/Cuban/Puerto Rican/Dominican/Brazillian/etc.” It’s like they’re saying, “You’re an honorary human being because you dance when we tell you to dance.”

WTF? Yes, hearing people saying hateful shit about people you love, constantly having to decide whether to reveal yourself to be one of the people they just indicated are less than human, that’s just a stroll in the park. Yeesh. Sure, it’s a slightly different flavor of horrible, but it’s still horrible. I have to…

I said I’ve experienced more than people I know, not all people of color. I’m not arrogant enough to make that claim. And it is true, I’ve discussed this issue with my friends and family and I’ve had more experiences with it than a majority of them have. But whatever, clearly you want to pull out our Hispanic cocks…

You probably had an over exaggerated response of betrayal from them for pretending to be white. When you actually weren’t, you are bitcholaporvida who happens to be Hispanic. It’s all messed up when you are a light skinned minority. The “ethnics” partially blame you because your ancestors bought in to the oppression…

Imagine for a moment that you’re gay, but the guy stood next to you doesn’t know that, and he says something horrible about that gay guy over there. Different minority group, but the same principle.

Just because the bigot didn’t meant to offend you doesn’t make it hurt any less.

I’m another lighter skinned Hispanic, and while I think i’ve faced much less discrimination than darker skinned Hispanics (my father, for instance), it’s not like it never happens, although it’s less, “are you even legal here?” And more, “oh, you’re Hispanic? Can you help me find some taco seasoning? You must love…

I understand what you’re saying but I think it’s a little arrogant to imply it was any less painful for me to hear those things simply because it wasn’t directed at me.

Yes! That is exactly what I thought! She could just not handle it that she couldn’t be the loudest voice or the expert or even relevant so she made it all about her. Imagine if she had put a fraction of that energy into being an ally...

There was a pretty good opinion piece in Indian Country Today about this whole thing and how it compares to the appropriation of Native identity by white people. It brought to mind the documentary White Shamans & Plastic Medicine Men that I watched in a college indigenous cultural survival class.

She couldn’t just be a supportive ally. No, homegirl had to be the center of attention.

I can’t remember where I read/heard that pathological narcissism is contagious - people get caught up in the grandiose delusions then create their own. It seems like the attention-seeking apple didn’t fall far from the tree. A WHOLE LOT more is going to come out... I sense that the craziness runs deep in this family.

So, in this week’s episode of “Two Things Can Be True at the Same Damn Time”, her parents sound kinda toxic and I express my empathy towards Rachel. HOWEVER, she’s a fucking fraud and, while it is gross how her parents outed her, this is one of those situations where she needed to be exposed because she, essentially,…

She was divorced and then started the transformation. I would imagine that she was reacting to rejection from her ex and possibly his black friends and family and this is her emotional, racially confused response. To assume an identity other than her own.

Herein lies the problem: unlike tribal units who can define what it is to be Cree, Lakota, Apache, etc. and being Indian is then Extrapolated from this, there is no longer a traditional authority defining American blackness. There is not membership vetting process. You don’t get a “black card”.

Am going to add (in advance) that black Americans also don’t actually subscribe to ‘one drop’ theory. We do however subscribe to not kicking out ppl who look white or who appear clearly to be mixed but who ethnically identify (are descended from Africans) and have strong ties to the African American community. It’s…

I was in a summer school french class years ago at UC Berkeley and a girl who was black became my default friend in the class. On the first day she asked if I wanted to get a smoothie after and then it kind of became our ritual. She and I clicked immediately and when she made a couple of jokes about white boys and I…