But older mothers are the norm in most Western countries where the mortality rate is less than half. There are other factors at play here. My money is on the economic inequality and implicit bias that is more entrenched in American healthcare which limits which women get good care and which get shitty care.

Having worked at one of those place where they have all the right documents the employer was likely complicit. My ex-employer used to tell them where to go to get fake/stolen documents. It was a public secret that they were undocumented and working under false SSNs. Just because employers know how to cover their butts…

Well... I mean restaurants are notroriously hard to run and make a profit. Sure, there are some profittable ones but most run very thin margins

We have those in the PNW, they are Playland at Fred Meyer. It’s not as fancy as Smaland but my kids DO NOT CARE that they play with the same 20 toys in the 20x30 room every time. They love going to Playland and for us it is worth the little bit more FG Meyer costs to have an hour for shopping without them.

Willingly? More like intentionally. The difference for a man would be that it’s harder to imagine a situation where he is not intentionally poisoning the baby in order to cause harm. There is no criminal intent here. She didn’t poison the baby with the intent to hurt the baby.

Why is the answer give the baby away which in all research does not support that there will be a better outcome for the mom or the baby involved (on a systems level). Why not have a program where free night babycarers can come in and provide support to mom and baby overnight (if that’s when something like this is more …

Nursing, maybe. It’s ensuring that they have enough formula and that it can be prepared properly and mom will have it handy in the middle of the night when she is too tired (or when she is high and doesn’t have the energy to do it)

Who gets to say which negligence related deaths are given time-outs or not? Babies who drown in bathtubs because their caregiver walked away for a moment? Kids playing in the front of the house gets hit be a car? Baby accidentally left in a car on a hot day? We are so focused on punishing women (it’s almost always…

I think that is different. I haven’t been in that situation. Thanks for that perspective.

It’s not that I’m comfortable or uncomfortable with it. I didn’t know there was an established term for it. I know the term for the pictures of male genitals but obviously the term for the female equivalent (and omg... the cis-gendered discussion here is just OTT) hasn’t made it into the common vernacular. I’ve also…

I wasn’t speaking about me... I was speaking about society, the royal we, the collective of people allowing this practice within our norms and mores

Really? This seems so outside my experience. Like maybe there are a few women sending vag pics but I don’t think this is a “thing” for women. I’ve certainly been asked for them a lot but sending them just as a rule, no.

The whataboutism isn’t about the specific writer of the article but the reason that the article pitch was picked up.

My guess... you aren’t a woman. Once you see that it is the patriarchy, you can unsee it. Why are we slut shaming and body shaming a woman’s vag pic in the NYT? Patriarchy.

I don’t. It’s body shaming and slut shaming and generally disgusting to tear a woman’s body apart in a publication for the world. It’s horrifying that the intent of this from the NYT was to say “women send genital pics too” and then literally did exactly the patriarchical thing and critiqued the image based on it’s att…

I am making an assumption because I think this a real case of whataboutism excusing dick pics. I’ll say even if I was cheating on my spouse I wouldn’t be asking for dick pics... wouldn’t stop them from being sent to me. Infidelity does not mean affirmative consent to pics of genitalia

It’s like trying to say cops killing black people is cool because “black-on-black crime.” Women are rightfully screaming about being innundated unsolicited dick pics and NYT is like, but this lady sent a vag pic (then body shames the pic). The patriarchy, it’s always the patriarchy (except when it’s white superiority…

Not sounds like. Actually did. The person receiving the picture shared it with some people for reaction. That person also happens to be the reporter.

Within your personal circle, sure. In a pbulication available to the entire world, not so much.

Wow... regardless of if it was the writer’s husband receiving this unsolicited vag pic or just some rando vag pic it is wholly disgusting to pick apart the appearance of a person’s body for the whole world without their express consent. Gross, gross, gross.