In the 90s some friends got into Williamson’s stuff; got me into it a bit. Listening to some tapes, I remember hearing her sneer something to the effect of “I met people who were dying from AIDS who felt less sorry for themselves than people who felt daddy didn’t love them enough.” The disdain in her voice for people…

This told me everything I needed to know:

A body is not a costume. Body shape is not easily changeable; it’s basically only through plastic surgery or weight gain/loss (which is dangerous if done quickly/often). Body shape’s not a dress, or a toga, or a suit of armor. It’s not colored contacts or a fake beard. To argue that a fat body, which is the subject…

I thought the same thing, and not in a “Aw, you look like your mom” way, but in a “Wow, you look 20 years older than your actual age” way.

She’s a pretty woman but this look is very aging.

Yeah, but I’m not making spreadsheets to amuse and entertain the general public. When you put your personal life up for entertainment value in order to get paid, you don’t get to be mad when people treat your personal life like...entertainment.

Internalized misogyny vis a vis the Madonna/Whore Complex is real and it’s shitty.

Nope. We need to stop with the “It’s generational” stuff. My own mother is in her mid-70s and is appalled at Streisand’s comments.

Gross people are gross people, no matter their age.

No cash bars. If you can’t afford to give your guests food and drink for the entire party, get cheaper food and drink or get fewer guests. Not having booze is a perfectly acceptable choice, for whatever reason. (A dry wedding is not my favorite kind of wedding, but I’m also not the one throwing the party.)

If you…

YES. It’s rude to invade someone’s private party where they are trying to celebrate an important life event with their loved ones. Someone’s desire for a free meal and LOLs is not more important than the couples’ right to celebrate with their invited guests at the party they paid for.

So if you had too much food at your picnic you’d be fine with someone (who isn’t food insecure) swiping food from your blanket while you went for a walk, just for shits and giggles? Or reaching through your dining room window to steal the leftovers off your dinner plate when you went to get some more wine? Because…

Indiana is the Mississippi of the North.
(As a former Hoosier I am allowed to say this.)

Because my body is not a costume. Thin bodies have privilege that bigger bodies don’t. I don’t get to take off my hips and thighs at the end of the day and enjoy the privilege that comes with being thin. I exist in a body in a world that tells me my body is wrong.

As McCarthy’s performance so eloquently proves, there wa…

I wouldn’t know Cardi B if she walked up and punched me. Nor do I really care to.

Because it’s all a zero sum game, you know. If you care about gender neutral language, you can’t care about anything else. Never mind that the fight for gender neutral terms is important to non-binary and genderqueer recognition as well as ‘classic’ feminism. But I’m An Old so what do I know?

They’re trying to use this newer, more polite term when the old & ugly term is correct.

Personally, I’ve always preferred “racist dickweasel”.

When I was 18, if my mom had told me “Do this. It will help you get into college” I probably would have done it, unless it was actual physical harm to someone else. Especially for kids who’ve probably never had to do one damn thing for themselves, they wouldn’t have the slightest idea who to go to in order to report…

Judge Judy is a judgmental old biddy who thinks she knows everything and is privileged AF. Fight me.

“Hostile Work Environment” is a legal term. Being a jerk, even consistently being a jerk, does not create a “hostile work environment” unless the HWE is related to a protected class like age, gender, race, etc. If you’re an equal opportunity asshole, the workplace might be toxic, but it’s not a “hostile work…

I will go to bat for you. I will not lose my job for you. I can’t make management do the right thing for employees. I can counsel and advise, but I do not have the power to unilaterally change office culture, and I need my paycheck just as much as you do.

That’s our job. We are not advocates for the employee. We are not a separate entity sent to be a referee; we’re employees of the company, too. We have no more ownership or power than anyone else.