My dad is not perfect but he is a good father to me. He is supportive and is interested in me. He doesn't care he never had a son and is happy with a daughter. Not everyone is lucky enough to have that and I am thankful for him.

Dayna, thank you for posting this. I have a strained relationship with my father and over the years it has become more and more apparent that the issues are his. My mom told me once that he always seemed to think I was watching him. Now I realize that he lives in fear of being exposed for being completely full of…

It’s funny because no one ever talks about how men have daddy issues and there’s lots of them. But of course we’re supposed to believe that men can overcome anything and women are fragile messes if they don’t have a strong male figure in their life.

Yep, and it’s such a throwaway for any time a woman dares to lay down expectations for a man. As in, since we are in a relationship, when I text you, I expect a response within a reasonable timeframe. Asshole guy’s response: geez, back up with your clingy shit—what, do you have daddy issues?!?

This makes me even more grateful for my dad. He wasn’t Superman or even close, but he was a fundamentally good person and did his best. I think I was very lucky.

Gotta protect dem delicate menzes from duh hysterical wimminzes.

My ex husband is similar. Less drunk, but chock full of anger and resentment towards myself and our daughter. He even wants a chance at adopting his grand daughter, because “he didn’t have a chance to bring her up (my daughter) with morals and principles, and he wants a chance to show what sort of child he could…

Excellent post. Good for you. It IS so freeing when you can dump all the detritus right back where it belongs.

You don’t have daddy issues...you just have an asshole for a daddy.

Ugh. The whole “daddy issues” bit is as tired as “that time of the month” jokes.

I learned early that sometimes the people who are supposed to take care of you will leave you. That’s not a complex, that’s a fact.

Saying a woman or girl has “daddy issues” is fucking wretched. If she has daddy issues, shouldn’t the hate be directed at, you know, her god damned father? How is his disgusting and damaging fuckery her fault?

I don't usually delight in the demise of other people's relationships, but I am so happy and relieved that Charlize ditched that piece of shit.

Yeah this is one of the major issues I have with the whole thing. I don’t really want to rush to judge her, I kinda feel that there has to be more to it, but this performative blackness of hers makes it very hard not to, and then she doubled down with her “I still consider myself black, you’re all just to dumb to…

“Transracial” is no different than those people who claim they’re “Otherkin”.

I know right. And it’s an awful meta circle jerk that people are defending her pathetic excuse at use blackness as performance art for her pathetic life. Her white privilege flexing which makes people defend her right to be “Black”.

Not sure if you’re the one who promoted this comment, but for whoever did, can we please leave shitty comments like this in the greys? It’s so frustrating to see awesome comments go unnoticed in the greys while shit like this is one of the first comments on the article.

Except sex & gender are biologically real and race is biologically bullshit. You can’t have mental wires crossed between two identities that don’t truly have a mental basis.

Both her parents are white. She herself is lily white. She dyed her hair and darkened her skin with cosmetics. She also claimed her adopted brother was her son, her father had cancer, she had cancer, and probably a lot of other shit too. She is a lying liar who lies a lot.