You’re exactly right. And this has nothing to do with grief, as other people have stated, because the same applies when your parents just split up and they start dating. The children have the same exact response, which is just an almost cliche disgust, and it’s really unfair to the parents, who are actually real…

I have lost a parent, and although I understand that much of this author’s overreaction was due to her own grief, her expectation that her mother- who had just lost her spouse of 43 years- was going to continue to cater to her feelings as though she were a child was, frankly, unreasonable and selfish.

Do you realize the huge contradiction you just made there?

Right. It’s dangerous, for both you and the people you surround yourself with, to assume your grief supersedes theirs in importance. Feel free to grieve but not at the expense of someone else’s closure.

It didn’t read as an attack so much as advice for:

wow. you need therapy.

I agree with you and thank you for putting this more eloquently than I could have. My GTF over it. Parents are adult human beings with their own complex inner lives. They are there to protect and ease you into adulthood, not be your emotional slave. I lost my father three years ago, so I have real experience here.…

I’ll star you for the sake of fair discussion, even though I’m alarmed that this many people need to be told not to be shitty to their widowed parent who is apparently just trying to get on with their life.

I’ve been through the same situation, I just didn’t feel the need to post it because I don’t think it’s really relevant.

Same thing here. Literally a month after my mom died my father was wanting to introduce her to us. It killed me. After my grieving had died down I started to do the math and realized he either met her the day after my mom died or possible even before. My dad’s health is not great but the new woman’s is much worse. He…

“Dad’s dead, but he’s not that dead,”

Your brother is of course entitled to his opinion. So long as he hasn’t actually told your mom he’s against her dating-because that would be disgustingly selfish. It’s understandable, but that’s the type of thing you keep to yourself.

27 with the emotional maturity of a 12 year old. Grow up, your mother doesn’t owe you her entire life. You’re an adult now, time to cut the apron strings.

So I am not trying to be a complete ass hole when I say this, even though I think it will probably come off as being so. I think people need to learn to get over things (I am absolutely not talking about your fathers death - please do not think that). I don’t like your line when you say, “My concern is that she is…

Repeat after me : My parent dating is not...about....me.

What’s the problem with them dating again? If you are a teen or an adult (who is out of the house) who they date is none of your business. If they want to find pleasure in the company of others, then that is fine.
Same with divorce, when two parents divorce, what they do with their time is up to them. It doesn’t…

Leslie, you know, one thing....

I’d say this: Chill the fuck out and let your parents be human beings.

Seriously, people have died since the dawn of man, and you feel the need to write this? I just dont get it. Who cares that your mom is seeing other people? Its a natural response to obtain companionship! why do your thoughts and feelings matter? Let me tell you: they do not. Your mother is her own person who can…

Strongly disagree. All of her ballads have been suited for her voice. You can say she hasn’t picked the best up-tempo songs, but that only applies to her last 2 albums (“Not Myself Tonight” wasn’t bad, just reductive. “Prima Donna” would have made a better release, but c’est la vie). Her first 3 albums are damn near…