I had a psychology professor who worked with sex offenders. She said that sex offenders, on average, offend about 350 times or so before getting caught. Can't remember the exact number she quoted, but yeah, something up around 350 times.

In my experience working in a state system ( managing the registry of child abuse and neglect), it has not only happened three times. Those were the three that have talked, or that he got tangentially caught with. Perpetrators of this ilk are clever and rarely groom ones they think will out them publically. For the…

I shudder to think of how much time this guy spent on set with the little girls on his show.

And after he was forcibly outed. Don't forget that. I doubt he would have come forward about it if his wife didn't force him.

"I began deeply regretting it the moment the statute of limitations kicked in and then I started atoning for it in my own, useless way."

Yeah, and i find his assertion that the one victim was "extremely gracious" when he apologized to him really unsettling. Maybe she was, but there is a good chance she felt totally overwhelmed and at a loss for what to do, trapped and wanted to do whatever would make the interaction with him end the fastest way…

It's impossible to believe because it's impossible.

Or suddenly stopped 20 years ago.

Words cannot describe how disgusted I am. The sheer audacity of his "apology," as if being in "therapy" can make up for what he did to these women, as if he had no choice in the matter and was suffering from some kind of illness. I'm sure THEY needed four times the amount of therapy to get over the things he CHOSE…

It's impossible to believe this only happened three times.

I think we (a very general "we," here—I'm a white woman) shouldn't waste too much time worrying about the feelings of white people who are being genuinely good about race issues. They'll be fine—they don't need to be coddled. (If the need to be rewarded and coddled, then they're not actually very good white people…

I'm sorry but that's BS. So good white people shouldn't express opinions because some black people might construe that as self-righteousness? And just sit by quietly? There's a difference between getting on a soapbox and expressing one's opinion in a rational, calm manner in the appropriate venue. The latter is just…

I thought it was a wonderful piece, but I sincerely doubt that most good white people—or at least the good white people who run in my circles—believe that they "deserve a fucking prize." I think they're expressing empathy.

Thanks for this. That was my sense of it, too. I think it's a question of how white people who want to be anti-racist should talk about race, not a question of whether they should talk about it. We shouldn't speak for PoC, we shouldn't make it about ourselves, and we shouldn't expect praise for merely not being an…

Were does sharing articles on social media fall into this? When I see news stories about these issues I share them, generally to educate other white people who might not be paying attention. Is this seen as trying to get attention. Because in all seriousness I am just trying to share information. My black friends…

how can you combat such ignorance? seriously. how can someone like her become anti-racist?

Really great article. I am one of those "good white people" and never noticed how every time one of my black friends talked about racism here in the Netherlands, I immediately needed to show them I wasn't one of those white people... until one day one of my friends got frustrated with me and said: It's not about you!…

I don't think I ever really considered myself a "good white person," I grew up in a household where we looked at everyone the same way, and that's just how it's been my whole life. I only noticed that I was apparently a "better than average white person" when I moved into an area with a larger black community. I'd do…

"Good white people" demonstrate the qualities that all good people demonstrate: kindness, empathy, compassion, thoughtfulness, unconditional love. These are the values I try to instill in my students; that parents try to instill in their children.