I told my family what my ex did, now they kinda hate her to varying degrees. She has not seen or spoken to any of my family since and claims she never will, “I can’t look them in the face ever again”. It’s sad because they all loved her and likewise. She said my mother was better to her than her own. That might all be…

The idea of even dating felt alien and not desirable for like six months. But get out there as soon as you feel ready. Nothing will help you move on from the ex like being with someone else.

She asked me to leave in January. “Trial separation.” We hadn’t been happy for a while, but I still loved her. The reasons didn’t add up; I was so sad and confused. About two weeks in, found out: her boss (and at least one other), EIGHT FUCKING YEARS. More than half our marriage.

My ex and I were together 8 years, married nearly 5, when we separated. We had no children and were still fond of each other , so the difficult part was in getting to the place where we agreed that the marriage needed to end. Couples counselling helped and we continued for a few sessions after the decision was made.…

You are probably making the best decision for yourself. I hope it goes as smoothly as possible.

My divorced friend had a rough time during (spouse cheated) but after a year said it was the best thing to happen to her. She’s now happily remarried and never has to deal with the ex. Hugs and best wishes for a speedy recovery.

I can relate to the bit about latching onto new people who normally wouldn’t be friends, then have difficulty extricating self...

I’m 34 years old, was with my ex for 12 years, and am 2 years out from the date that my ex and I separated. The divorce has been final for 1.5 years. It was very painful, even if it was more my decision, but I am feeling hopeful and happy for the first time in a long time. It took a lot of therapy to get out of…

Let me just stress you do NOT owe your friend a thing in the romantic sense. I don’t care if he/she’s “been there for you,” or what errands they’ve run or if they’ve lent you money. Be honest, be kind, don’t lead them on out of discomfort at having to have another gross, heavy conversation.

I’m going through a divorce right now at 40. I keep telling myself it’ll be better once I get through all the suck. Friends who have gone through it (one of them in her mid-twenties) tell me it takes about 2 years to process and really be over it, and also that they are much happier now. The friend who divorced before…

One of the things that helped me the most was reframing it... it wasn’t a failure (that word is a total trigger for me). Rather, we were two people who hadn’t finished growing up when we got married. We kept growing, and it wasn’t in the same direction. So, neither of us failed, we just realized that we wanted…

Anybody who has been through divorce and made it to the other side and can give me some hope for happiness?

I’m pretty sure I’m still in the greys, but I hope you see this.

Divorced in December of ‘09 (married five years, and age 32 when it crashed.) Three key pieces of advice:

One step at a time, right?

I haven’t been divorced but I know several who were and they found people they were very happy with. One guy was eating breakfast when his wife of more than 20 years casually announced “I don’t love you anymore.” He was in therapy for about a year after that, but is now married to a good woman. Another guy said he…

I got divorced when I was 24ish. That was a long time ago. It was pretty amicable. We had no kids or money. Haven’t seen or heard from him since. I got married again 2 years after that and we just celebrated our 20th anniversary. So there’s absolutely hope for you. Take your time and don’t be pressured into anything.…

I ended a 20-yr marriage exactly two years ago. Lots of people were shocked, though not those closest to me, who knew we had been miserable for several years. He made the first (written) move, but I moved out, eagerly, within four days. I was too “chicken” to say it first but relieved as f**k. I have been in my…

I know someone close to me who is now in the last stages of finalizing her divorce. She had some bad reactions from family and friends when it was announced. It was awkward and messy while they separated.

My sister’s ex was her high school boyfriend, so they were together about the same amount of time. I saw firsthand how hard it is to end something that started when you were so young. It’s hard to recognize that, in growing up, you’ve grown into different, incompatible people (that, and he was sleeping around).