Well, I mean she does seem to like the term herself...

I don’t say this often, but

He told a joke at the beginning about pitching a fake movie to a producer at the Oscars about a super hero who got his strength from touching a woman’s vagina. But since the hero was not attractive he couldn’t convince women to let him touch them once, very gently so he had to resort to rape to get his strength to…

I will never forgive Bill Cosby for taking Bill Cosby from me.

I watched Spin last night, and Rich is leaving out a key part of the Cosby commentary - that being it was a callback to a joke done earlier in the show concerning a superhero who resorts to rape to maximize his “powers,” setting up a moral conundrum of “he rapes, but he saves lives.”

This wasn’t Andrew Dice Clay…

Let’s just remember that he has a valuable legacy that I can’t just throw away. I remember that he’s the first black man to ever win an Emmy in television. I also remember that he’s the first guy to make a cartoon with black characters where their lips and noses were drawn proportionately. I remember that he had a…

always get his attention by yelling, “hey, seuss!”

I have no problem with thanks: it makes both of us feel heard and appreciated. But I do have problems with a spouse expecting a parade because they put their shoes away.

I’m all for not keeping the house 100% spotless. My house is only “presentable” when we’re expecting company. But I will say this if someone is up against a man who says, “If it bothers you, then it’s your problem”: Well, it bothers ME that WE are living in squalor. It bothers ME that YOU would allow us to live in…

Well, I think that ditching the idea of “fairness” in terms of finding a 50/50 split is a good start. The chores aren’t the only aspect of managing a household and it would be impossible to tally up all the emotional and physical labor that goes into it. Stepping out of that tit-for-tat mental framework of who does…

Yeah. I have in some cases decided I care more about not doing it than having it done right and in a timely manner. So, himself “does the dishes” after I cosok, meaning everything but the pans go in the dishwasher and the pans remain dirty up to a week after.

I always thought it was a no brainer stupid conflict, just pull your fair share, end of story. Then I lived for six months with a longterm girlfriend late in college years ago, and every chore resulted in her wanting it done a different way. My biweekly shower scrub/clean schedule was horrifying to her, she insisted…

The bit about it being sloppy or wrong if, by some miracle, they actually do the work is what kills most of us dead, I think.

Thank you for sharing that! My wife and I also come from families that tend to skew conservative... let’s just say the first time I met my (future) father-in-law he openly laughed at me for letting a woman drive me around. The woman was his daughter. She drove us over to his house for dinner.

This!! You can tell a lot about a person when you’re dating- how does he keep his home?? Does he pay his bills on time? Is he responsible or does he live like a child? That’s stuff you need to suss out before kids. My husband was very tidy when I met him- he didn’t neglect his laundry. He ate three meals a day. He…

Honestly? Thank you for sharing! I feel like if more guys vocalized their insecurities about being the primary parent and how a lot of it is a result of socialization and toxic socialization, it would open up more discussion to fixing things and ensuring the better division of labor. Good luck to you and your wife,…

I am so sorry you’ve had to deal with that crap. :(

My wife recently returned to work after giving birth in December. We’re fortunate in that I am able to stay home to care for our new little one during the day while I work on a PsyD and go to class in the evenings. Nevertheless, there is an aspect of toxic masculinity to my thinking — even though I generally regard…

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