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@howdini: Not to mention the Monkees.

@Charlie Jane Anders: And it (mis)quotes W. H. Auden! Without permission, but still.

@Celtic1888: Agree.

@No Evil Star: That's it! Thank you.

@Jerilu: It was cool - as I've written to ShadyLane, she looked well-dressed. Major battle was won right there.

@EndangeredRed: Off-topic a bit, there's definitely a taboo about wearing a red dress to a funeral (immortalized in popular culture by a rant delivered by Cher in Moonstruck).

@ShadyLane: Other brides can weigh in, I suppose, but truly I was happy with my mother-in-law's outfit - for one thing, she definitely didn't do it on purpose, as etiquette and fashion aren't on her radar. She looked nice, and it was a lot better than the t-shirt dress and mismatched fuzzy crocheted shawl that she'd…

@RedSharpie: If you aren't an ex of the groom's and your outfit doesn't look like Morticia or something you'd wear to a funeral, then hey. That's what I think, anyhow! And if you're still feeling unsure, a bright scarf or necklace or brooch will help, as will lipstick.

@EndangeredRed: Nonsense, I say roundly. My mom wore a red lace suit to my afternoon wedding, and looked perfectly lovely and appropriate. And elegant, but she always looks elegant - not a trick I've gotten down.