and this is why you never write emails from a work IP address / work email address that you would not want all your colleagues to see. This is something that especially older people don't understand. It's so simple!

40 years ago? 2014-1994=20.

Yes on one level....parenting. On another level....everyone's kids have the Internet, so.

no judging but a question: were you raised by parents who didn't have any rules about that stuff, or who had a lot of rules? I was raised in a house w a lot of rules, which makes me thinking I'm gonna be dangerously lenient as a result. Always so interesting to see how people arrive at those choices.

resignation = graceful firing

you mean like tearing down the superfluous plaster wall, redoing the cabinetry and installing a reclaimed wood wall unit? Oh yeah, I've never thought about doing that to my shitty rentals, no, not me.

No. I think that makes you you. Some women love the idea of wedding culture generally. Some don't, and some only do specifically. I don't think having one approach over the other makes you or your individual marriage any less or more valid.

Sure it's a form of make believe, but why is that so much more fucked up than imagining what your future kids will be like, or a future career, or anything you want as a part of your future life? And having a dream in your head (or even a private Pinterest board) is far different than buying a dress while single,…

Is that not what Pinterest is for? To plan my shabby chic kitchen with the custom undermount farmhouse sink?

Right? I don't see the harm in fantasizing. Having a dream in your head (or even a private Pinterest board) is far different than buying a dress while single, calling local wedding vendors for price estimates, and doing a cake tasting by yourself. And just because someone's got an idea of what they might like for a…

yeah. I think the point is that you're fucked no matter what !!

To be fair, the idea of Not Having That Convo is not a wildly unrealistic thought. it BOGGLES my mind the number of couples I know who didn't have that talk pre-marriage, or had it with the "oh yeah i'm sure it'll work out, that's far away, I LOVEEE YOUUU" mentality. I have two engaged couple friends who, when you ask…

What about ambitious married women who do not have kids? The title here is about husbands, but pertains more to the notion that women pick up slack and suffer professionally when children enter the picture, not simply just by being in a marriage. I wonder what the stats on childless couples are...I know a few…

good for you! I think partnerships are underratedly the best things that can happen to a career minded woman, provided they are with men who are the right fit. culturally we've somehow developed this assumption that a husband is another accessory item that the Woman Who Has It All has to balance, along with her…

i dont think it's hard to be ambitious, it's just a matter of understanding your priorities and then admitting to yourself where you can negotiate and where you won't. I am highly professionally ambitious and my boyfriend, though having a good career himself, is far less type-A about it than I am. we both work and we…

This doesn't bother me as much as the cult of men who claim sympathetic pregnancy as their own physical experience under the guise of Couvade Syndrome, such as described in this memoir by despicable author/professional narcissist Gordon Churchwell. http://www.amazon.com/Expecting-Mans…

"it was my birthdayyyyyy so no fair!!" - a six year old somewhere, also this girl

26 years old. With less than $900 dollars to her name, ostensibly. Yet clicking "yes" on an expensive car service that notified her of a price surge. Why should I feel bad for this person?

WHY IS IT ALWAYS BRITS.

i think that's the most interesting thing. he's not a citizen, but then he's also traveled abroad...and he was probably trying to use his non-citizen status to hide from the feds and creditors....this all seems like such shady BS, like it's part of something way bigger. I still get me some stronggggg mob vibes from JG…