Okay, Melissa for sure (but maybe also Cathy, because poor Vivi-Anne who couldn't even pretend to give a fuck!!)

She had her lawyer send them a cease & desist letter! That was NUTS.

I’m glad Holly stepped up, to be honest. She got Nia some attention outside of Abby’s racist, stereotypical choreography.

I could not handle the way Jill reacted to Nia getting a little bit of attention. Like, Holly went and made some stuff happen without Abby— you don't have to be so nasty about it, you can be a quiet kind of jealous.

Agreed! There was a lot more substance and a lot less sniping. A low bar, but still.

Sprite with Crown Royal Apple! I’m ready.

Snakes in your HOUSE? No, no, nope. Absolutely not.

I can’t snark the republican debates- their stances are so extreme, and so out of touch with reality, that it is sad rather than funny.

Yeah, I get that. On the other hand, I’m going to want to shout it from the rooftops.

Honestly, it wasn’t bad as I thought it was going to be. I cried when she told me, but other than that I have been super excited for her. I’m sure that I’ll help throw the baby shower, etc.

We haven’t really even started on me yet. When I went to the doctor a little over a year ago, I was told not to try to get pregnant because my cholesterol was too high. Also thought maybe PCOS, but ruled that out. Then, once my cholesterol was in check, we started treatment for my husband’s low count/motility- 6…

It didn’t come out wrong at all! I totally understood what you were saying, and took no offense. Anyone in your position would feel lost, vulnerable, betrayed— all the things you’re dealing with. I hope that there is someone in real life, or even here online, who can help you through it.

I’ve told friends that I am never, ever allowed to go on a show like this. (Love It or List It comes to mind) The homeowners almost always end up looking like assholes.

Great summary. My best friend and I loved this show back in the day- but, to your point, I can’t imagine enjoying it now.

I’m so sorry she handled that so horrifically. Has she ever apologized?

Thank you! The varicocele repair was a step forward, I think. One part that has been frustrating is that none of the doctors seem to feel the same urgency I do. It was nice for something to finally happen!

Agreed. There is an ebb and flow to it— sometimes, I can handle that this is just what we’re dealing with now. One way or another, we will get through this. Other times, I cry for hours on end.

I have! I tend to gravitate there when we get a new diagnosis (low count, motility, varicocele...) I go there and find someone who has dealt with the same thing. Otherwise, I’ve mostly cut myself off from infertility blogs and forums. I tend to obsess.

We’re always looking for shared experiences, right? I really appreciate when forums that are normally used for sharing good news— instagram, twitter, Facebook, magazine interviews— are used instead to share struggles and make people feel less alone. Normally, we’re all trying to hide our weaknesses and project our…

Amen to your entire response. A couple that I know shared, very soon after their pregnancy announcement, that they had struggled to conceive and had miscarriages before they got pregnant with their son. It was like a little beacon of light: “We struggled too. It was worth it.”