Oh man, WORD. This is my 10th year in Chicago and I've aged 16 years this winter. My shoulders are constantly hunched, my face is squinched (made that up), my hair is brittle, my skin is scaley, I'm DISGUSTING. Not only that, I hover somewhere between despondent and fucking pissed off every day of the week. Never in…

You and I had sparred about this issue last night and I think it's funny that all of my posts are missing. Not sure who would have done that or why.

Oh, I your point. I'm saying that I don't buy it. I don't believe that gender has no bearing on what you're saying. That was actually the point of MY post. No need to yell, though. You put your self out there by saying what you said and I disagreed with your assertion. I'd say that's pretty classic Jezebel...

So, because you're anti-title, you're saying that she has to just let herself be called the wrong title by her staffers—all the time? Do you think, for one minute, that a man in her position would sit there every day and let journalists and staffers refer to him by the wrong title? I see. The female is expected to…

Word. It's been so long that I've touched another human over 5'6 (I have kids) that I'd pay considerably more.

Oh God. I'm not even going to think about reading those comments. The rage I will feel...I was married and had my kids while in law school. Even before I had kids and was in school, I worked 2 jobs to my ex's .5 job. While a parent and in law school I worked 3/4 time; he worked a dead-end job. When I graduated and…

Yup. When I was in private practice I was in a big, soul-sucking firm and I was one of just a handful of women who stuck it out and made it to partner. Our website told the story is such a comical way. My favorite part was how a male partner would announce he had to leave a meeting early to attend a kid's soccer…

I wish I would have heeded your advice. Texas - ugh.

Thanks for chiming in! I always love hearing from other people who have similar "tendencies"...CBT is cognitive behavioral therapy, except I didn't go to any formal CBT training or a CBT therapist or anything like that. To be honest, whenever I would think, "hmmmm...am I a bona fide alcoholic?" I would google that…

I'm one. I stopped drinking on my own this past July when I realized that my depression certainly wasn't being helped by my nightly wine drinking. I would go 3 days without drinking and then pat myself on the back and say, "There! You're not an alcoholic!" I had this unspoken rule where I wouldn't allow myself to…

100% agree with you. I just didn't want to debate some existential meaning of "value" because I just don't have the energy to go down that road.

"The truth of the matter is, none of us have any idea of what the intrinsic value of a fetus is..." That's exactly my point. None of us know the answer and we all feel differently about it. And let me add that I can absolutely see your viewpoint. You are not some whacko hardliner. You've obviously given this a lot…

I see what you're saying but I guess my point is, who cares if some people regard an abortion the same way they regard taking a shower or eating cereal for breakfast? It's either legal and or it's not and if it is, whether there has any sort of "moral connotation" attached to it is wholly irrelevant. Moreover, who's…

Why #5? It just begs a lot of questions. Who's morals? What, exactly, are the "connotations"? What good or purpose do the "moral connotations" serve? If a woman feels shame or remorse about her decision, that affects others how?

I realized the other day that I'm REALLY naive because I just learned that it's become a well-documented issue in a posh north suburban school district in Chicago (think "Mean Girls"). Even speaking as someone who has seldom passed up the opportunity to escape reality when given the chance, I'm baffled by it. How do…

Even if it's all just the result of his being surrounded by yes-men, I have to ask: where are his parents? Where is his manager? Where is his publicist? I realize I sound like I'm 112 (and I am), but where are those people?

Likewise, mine is not bad at all compared to the reigns of terror and vileness (now a word) others have been subjected to but I was psyched to see this thread because I've held it in for a couple of years now. I met a guy on OKC about 5 years ago. Said he was single, blah blah blah, a firefighter, had 3 kids - 2 older…

Such kind words from you - thank you. That made my shitty Tuesday a little less shitty! And I'm glad to know that I'm in good company with my social conditioning...

I think she was trying to echo some of the sentiments of "Lean In" and I don't think she's entirely wrong. Personally speaking, I fight the Battle to Always be Liked on a daily basis. It wasn't until I hit 40 that I came to a whole slew of realizations, and one of them was that I have always been motivated first by…

There are always exceptions, but just based on my own anecdotal evidence I agree with you, at least in part. I was the primary breadwinner for many years when I was married. My ex loved to tell people that he gave up a career in order to stay home with our kids, but the reality is he fell into the stay at home dad…