If it did rise to the level of sexual harassment, she expected shared disgust at his behavior - and an unwillingness to act as though nothing happened. I expect a certain level of decency in my friends: forget the loyalty issue - I wouldn't want to have someone sleazy as a friend, as that reflects badly on me...

That's what I think the advice should have been: is having another child without your husband agreeing worth losing him and raising two children as a single mother? Because that is what's likely to happen...

Love that the parents in this travesty are named Jack & Diane. Collins-Rector obviously must like him some John Cougar Mellencamp...

As I commented elsewhere, Les Liaisons Dangereuses v. Valmont, the two Capote films, a whole spate of farm films in the Eighties...(yes, I am an old...)

Les Liaisons Dangereuses v. Valmont, the two Capote films, a whole spate of farm films in the Eighties...(yes, I am an old...)

Don't feel guilty: I benefit from certain privileges as a male, and I just try to be as decent to women as I can. Feeling guilty doesn't change the situation: your being a good person does.

Toni Morrison's "The Bluest Eye" is one of my favorite books, and it was the first book that (pardon the pun) enlightened me in articulating colorist (as a medium-skinned black male child, I had never experienced it directly...but I had probably cruelly mocked those darker than I was. The book made me stop it.)

Truth! Racism elsewhere often cloaks itself and is less obvious but, unfortunately, it's not confined to one geographical region,..

Because there was no dress code stated, you can't kick someone out if you didn't state the rules beforehand. If there were a dress code, then I'd expect attendees to adhere to it.

It's 2014, and next year will be 2015, and the year after that will be 2016. Thanks for the almanac.

They should have stated a dress code, and it should have stated "Formal": then a snazzy little pair of tuxedo trousers would have been fine (and divine).

"The South" is not one big, monolithic place with only one set of values: Atlanta differs from Birmingham, and there are differences within those cities. You know your part of the South...and my cousins know theirs.

I'm black, and I have two cousins in Alabama who are married to whites. And they have had no crosses burned on their laws, and their children seem to be like any other kids (although I haven't interrogated them about what's it like to have parents of different races - as they're children, not science experiments).

They're great for networking. How do you think men get into the Old Boys' Club? They meet at schools first.

Sometimes, law changes happen after public opinion turns (marriage equality), sometimes public opinion shifts after laws have been changed: there wasn't widespread acceptance of interracial marriage when the Loving v. Virginia case struck down laws against interracial marriage, but interracial marriage is now much…

If that's so, Hillary still gets hell for not getting more work done: there's a certain segment that bitched about her hair when she was in Africa trying to get people to stop using rape as a tool of war. Seriously...

The point is not to disappear from and be completely devalued by a public who used to shower you with love. It's easy for us to say that there is no point, having never been in that position. But I think it was Anita Loos who said beauty is to women as money is to men. Try telling someone who used to fly private jet…

If the biggest value your public has placed on you is your looks, you'll probably fight tooth and nail to keep that. And don't think that people will be less cruel to great beauties who "age naturally": Liz Taylor gained weight as she got older, and people were merciless. And paparazzi photos of Sharon Stone and other…

Nancy Pelosi gets grief from many folks because she's had some work done, while Hillary Clinton gets grief from many of the same folks because she hasn't had work done.

Unfortunately, his waiting 15 years seriously compromises his case - as it becomes largely he said/he said. No criminal complaint was made, no rape kit was done, and corroborating witnesses will be difficult to find (even if he knew all of their names). If we live in a land where one is innocent until proven guilty,…