So apparently sex IS a promise as part of marriage.

Coward. And get a real opinion. Would he stick around if there were no or little sex?

Ask the question. I don't assume that in specific cases, but statistically I believe it is true, yes.

Thank you for the kind words and the advice. I've thought of therapy, but I've avoided bringing it up because I'm not sure how she'd receive the idea. Her upbringing was pretty conservative so I don't know if she'd be comfortable sharing something like that with anyone. She sees someone for depression/anxiety, but…

Yep. We've talked about it.

Her - once a month maybe.

You're a silly woman who is trying to equate that to the promises made in a marriage about sex in general, yes. But you go on trying to sell that to someone. Heck, ask your supposed BF "would you marry me if you knew we'd only have sex for a couple of years and then almost never after?" As whipped as I'm assuming he…

She doesn't bust my balls at all, dear. She has little interest in balls, mine or anyone elses except than mine shouldn't stray.

Nope. But nice try. A typical Jezzie "the man must be at fault" response.

The partner with low libido is rarely the one with the problem regardless of gender, silly person.

Sorry, she doesn't like toys or porn, won't entertain the thought of a threesome, hates strip clubs, and we don't use birth control anymore.

We talk about it at least once a week. You could well be the exception in women if after 20 years you're still going strong. I have a female friend who is cheating for this reason - she has no interest in a divorce, just wants more sex.

Are you stupid or just dishonest?

Heh. My wife and I have been together for about as long, have two kids, and if I change the sheets (and I do change our sheets), I think the last thing she wants to do is get the sheets dirty having sex.

I didn't come here to stir up outrage, but I do believe what I'm saying yes. And over time so will most guys.

Years? 2? 3? Don't make me laugh.

Talking about it and warning others is not trashing her, if it's even possible to trash someone anonymously - and she's not a puritanical ball-busting harpy. Those are someone elses words. She has definitely become more puritanical as she has aged and we have had kids.

Yep. I have. It seems like it just isn't very high on her list of priorities anymore.

ok

Thug.