Dear Mr. Calvey,

I moonlight as a bouncer at a dive bar. We had very little training but one point that was heavily stressed was that any action to deter a threat HAS TO be in proportion to the threat. I deal with drunken idiots on a regular basis but if I did anything like this, not only would the bar be sued, but I personally would…

The video on this site shows a bit more.

Yeah, and as an ND alum, this reads a lot like another instance of campus authorities trying to make it women’s job to keep men in line.

I will almost always defer to whatever it takes to avoid trigger warnings for survivors of assault. The running of the dongs seems pretty mild to me though. Portland has a naked bike ride every year that features lots of dong on bike. It is heavily publicized and the majority of those who wish to avoid it can…

You will never ever hear me siding on the team that wants to make life harder for sexual assault victims. So in that interest, I have a question that may not have an answer: is the trauma reinvigorated with male nudity? Not the assailant’s nudity, just general male nudity?

Somewhat unrelated, but I wanted to point out that if you are drunk when someone steals your wallet, you are entirely at fault because you totally wanted that person to take your wallet, and now your just saying that it was stolen because you regret your decisions.

I’m so sorry!!!! You could be obnoxious like me and demand your hubby to take you to wherever for food because “baby wants it”. “Baby wants dim sum! Baby wants ice cream! Baby wants Indian food”. Once in a while I would steal something off of his plate and he would glare at me and Id shrug and said “Yeah, the baby…

When I was pregnant, I stood in line for Ben and Jerry’s free cone day. I got two scoops of ice cream and when my friend said “hey! Why does she get two?”, the woman who scooped said in a no nonsense tone “preggos get two scoops”. Yay for two scoops!

OMG, are you me? You are me. Between Gilt, sales on the private sites, and sales at Shopbop, Intermix, NM, Saks, I can get Joie, Vince, DVF and Equipment for the same price as JCrew with at least twice the quality.

I was just thinking about this. My Vince stuff, which I have saved up religiously for, is now at a similar price point to J. Crew. That makes zero sense to me. J. Crew is, at its heart, a mall brand for good basics. That is their demographic, and it should really be a no-brainer as to why they are seeing their sales…

Same. I’ve been a devoted JCrew shopper since middle school (which was longer ago for me than a lot of you...) but lately the JCrew gift cards that all of my family gift me out of habit have been sitting unused in my wallet for months on end. The fit/sizing now is so awful that I can’t order online, the clothes…

YES, the sizing. I used to be a 6 at J Crew and somehow I am now a 0. I have not lost any weight, or shrunk, or developed an amazing fitness routine. It makes online shopping downright impossible, not that I can afford anything they sell anymore.

Please. Please give us another choice. PLEASE.

If you read into the study, they discuss a bit about how people with ED tend to be much higher on the “perfectionist” type spectrum than most people, but some of what may account for the difference between men and women is that because of society, etc, that perfectionism manifests differently in men versus women.

Beautifully stated. I completely agree.

I went to school in Boston and Marathon Monday was one of my favorite days of the year. Get up early and then go to Kenmore Square and cheer everyone on.

I maintain that kid is not ‘incredibly hot’ like someone in that racist Bill Maher article comments section tried to say. Glad he got convicted, hope he doesn’t get death penalty.

I told my husband (and father of my two+ children) I wanted to see Obvious Child, and he expressed disbelief that I could watch a movie about having a shmashortion after becoming a mother myself. He’s generally with it as far as my beliefs and attitudes go, and I had to set him right straight that, as pro-choice as I…

Being pregnant and bringing life into the world actually made me more pro-choice than I was before. I think the “pro-life” movement should be renamed the “anti-compassion” movement, because I don’t understand how anyone who has been through a pregnancy could not feel compassion for a woman who is having a tough time…