I just have to say that I never thought I would see so many people whining about how "jeans" aren't prom attire. It's the fucking prom people. Is it graduation? Is it you're wedding? Is it a job that requires formal attire? Is it your inauguration? No. It's the prom. If kids can go in fucking duct tape outfits…

School dances held in gyms, yeah maybe if it's very slack and NOT a FORMAL DANCE. Funeral? Depends on person holding the wake/event. I cannot honestly say that JEANS are formal wear in any context, notmatter the price tag.

You're making assumptions. Jeans are perfectly common and acceptable wear for formal events, including school dances and funerals, where I'm from.

I've worked now in three offices, two of which were Japanese. The worst I ever got for wearing jeans outside of "biz cas Fri" was a gentle email reminder that slacks were required on Thursdays.

Pro-tip: I can so everyone can is a really stupid life philosophy.

More saliently: If you honestly expect teenagers to NOT push all of your boundaries to their very limits, you shouldn't be teaching high school!

I agree entirely. Typically, attire is asserted in advance.

My cousin's wedding — evening wedding, which usually indicates "formal" (black or white tie) is actually a "casual" wedding. It's in a church and an expensive hall. But her invitations say "wear what makes you feel best." And, it's also a no-gifts-please…

I can just imagine the school officials' thinking here:

I think the argument people are making here is that it's reasonable for a school to expect that people will just know what to wear to prom, or that everyone wants to dress up for prom so there's no need. Maybe they've gotten along well without one. Maybe they felt silly saying you need to wear a dress or suit, but if…

"Appropriate" is purely in the eye of the beholder— unless you've specified it in a dress code. So, if you want to specify Strictly Formal, then get specific about it & make a dress code. If you don't specify, you don't get to complain.

My HS Principal pulled me aside and chastised me while in line for graduation, bc I was NOT wearing a white dress. I wore white shoes, white shorts and a white shirt, all of which I had bought with babysitting money. I told the Principal she could shove her white dress rule, unless she wanted to buy it herself as my…

By its own definition, a dress code is the only thing that codifies what you're required to wear when "dressing for the occasion". If there's no dress code specified, then that means you wear whatever YOU feel is appropriate to the occasion. If you don't set rules, you don't get to expect kids to read your mind about…

Yeah, but that assumes this prom is a formal one or expects a certain degree of formal attire. This one had no dress code and unless there's some evidence that other kids weren't showing up in more primped versions of their school wardrobe I'm hesitant to call out this one who appears to have done just that. Formal…

Relevant item: um, she looks fucking dope. There were probably a hundred identical ballgowns in different shades of blech at that prom, and she looks dope. Nuff said.

I'd maybe be with you if it were a wedding or something, but it's PROM not a wedding or funeral! In the end, prom should be about the kids having a fun time, and if wearing jeans would have made her have fun, who cares? It isn't hurting anyone and she most likely also paid for her ticket to go. It isn't like she's…

Oh, horseshit. It's 2014. Let kids wear what they want. The school doesn't even have a dress code for prom, so she's not breaking any rules. And that outfit is fucking chic.

But there's no dress code....(also, some of the dresses I saw at prom were just regular day dresses—if that was the case for her prom, I don't see why she can't just show up in jeans.)

This may be a southern thing but at graduation all the girls were required to wear white dresses, no exception. Course my friend said "F*ck you guys" and just wore a t-shirt and shorts under her robe. I love her. Unfortunately, I was valedictorian and was going to be under heavy scrutiny, so I had to buy a goddamned…

Yes! My brothers, husband and FIL were all scouts or scout leaders, but until BSA gets their act together over this, my son will not go. And hey, bigots, my son and yours has more to fear from a straight predator than from a gay man. Gay does not equal pedophile, and I will continue to beat that into your heads.

I would LOVE to send my son to Scouts. My radically liberal brother was almost an Eagle Scout, and some of his fondest memories are of camping with his Scout troop. My cousin's kids love it. One of them just won a big community service award.