The US isn’t my home country, so sadly I won’t see him as often as I would like. I’ve never been to Borneo but I have worked in places more Westerners might consider “exotic”, and this place seems sufficiently weird to me :)

Deepest darkest Southern United States ::shudder::

I don’t know if there are any social scientists in the house, but two weeks ago I embarked on my fieldwork for my PhD! So far it’s been a weird combination of intense, uncomfortable, and boring. My husband came with me for this first little bit, to check out where I’ll be living, but this morning he started the…

I can only star you once for this comment, so here are some more:

I don’t know what your preferred drink is, but after reading this I’m mixing myself up a manhattan with an extra splash of bitters, getting under a blanket with my poop emoji cushion, and toasting to the fact that you are alive and fighting.

Cis woman here. Gonna say nope to your equation of OP’s experiences with womanhood generally. 1. I’ve dealt with some fucked up shit from cops, and from men, but nothing remotely resembling what she experienced. There’s no danger of me getting brutally beaten by a group of men for the crime of being hit on while not…

Pffff, if by that you mean raccoons are dangerously adorable! This little guy will even do your laundry:

Yeaaaahhh, I feel awkward saying it, because I’m obviously prejudiced, so my opinions should be taken with a big grain of salt. But I’ve never met such entitled menfolk, even the ‘nice’ ones. I reckon if a white man grew up with, and maybe even still has, POCs as “personal staff” (cleaners, cooks, nannies, labourers),…

I’m not proud to admit I have a fairly full library of revenge fantasies (for this ex person, not generally!). Maybe we can come up with some for Remain F. Calm? I’m so so sorry that you can relate to my situation. It’s a strange formula: illness + abusive partner + foreign country, but evidently it’s not that rare. I…

Lord give me the strength to not doxx his ass. One thing I will share: he’s a white dude in Africa, the descendant of some hardcore colonials. In my humble experience, white African males tend to be the most entitled of the fuckwads. #notallWAMs... but seriously, the worst.

I’ve noticed this about some people too, including my ex, aka Voldermort, aka the Donald Trump of romantic partners. They espouse this high standard of morality and what’s right in the abstract, but they treat the actual people close to them like garbage. Sounds like she’s got some supreme cognitive dissonance going…

I dunno, yours sounds like a bona fide sociopath. It’s amazing how some people can justify outrageous cruelty. It’s even more amazing how easily they can get away with it. Zero consequences. I think part of it is that friends and family just see it as a breakup, and therefore private and discomfiting. At what point do…

For some reason when I first read that I got the idea that he was trying to hide his wedding ring in your hoo ha.

WooT WooT! Many congrats!

Oh god, oh god, oh god. I was in a situation similar to this, and all the empathy cells in my body are screaming for you. I was the partner in a developing country with a dude who had all the power over my life and finances, even though I was working and he wasn’t. When I had a severe concussion he brought me to a…

I’d like to share something embarrassing and kind of gross from my week, if I may: I had a tooth that’s been a little shithead for years, and it finally got an abscess that meant it needed to go. I’m scared to the point of visibly shaking at any dentist appointment, but I was down with this procedure because this…

Yeah, I’m even looking at the initial “PHEW at least these aren’t the most popular names” list, and they don’t strike me as dumb, weird, or new. Evelyn, Esme, and Ezra are “older”, but who cares? Mia seems completely uncontroversial. Kai and Lachlan might not be conventional American names, but they’re plenty…

Those are fairly common and non-weird names in the part of the world where I live, and have been for ages, so.

Thank you. THANK YOU. REALLYREALLY THANKS!!

In this deep blue ocean of awesome images, the only one I take issue with is the tardigrade one. Tardigrades are rad and nice to everyone, probably.