The “lifetime of motherhood” seems like it’s looking way farther into the future than is reasonable for someone in that situation.

I’ve been friends with drug dealers, gangsters, people who do not do the best shit in the world. If I had started railing at them about their lives and some of their choices, how much longer do you think we would have been friends? How many people do you think were friends with Klan members over the decades despite…

Bumble is junk. It yells at me every week or so to say I have new matches, and there’s, like... two. I don’t live in a big city, but at least it’s technically a city. I just don’t think many people use it.

Fair point. I think the backlash is no less reasonable for the difference, but it does matter if she still can take this to a full trial. Hopefully that will go better, or prove unnecessary.

No no, stories of abuse in general.

My assumption is not predicated on Sony being able to dictate to Luke what happens; rather, it’s based on the fact Sony has more money than several gods and the power to go with it. Luke could be obstinate no matter what they do, but if they wanted to break her away from his label (which they own, as others have…

I’d just like to say, for the people who want to come in and blurt out crap about how Dr. Luke might be getting thrown under the bus and really is totally good guy- in the real world, if someone is sticking to her story about abuse for year after year after year, to the extent of putting money and lawyer time behind…

The “reflexive” support is largely based on Kesha’s story being like thousands of others we’ve all heard- there’s more than enough to believe Luke is a phenomenal pile of shit. When someone is lying about rape or abuse, those stories ring differently and have a tendency to fall apart sooner or later. So far the only…

This is, broadly, the point I’ve been making. I can’t blame the judge for the decision because the law probably required the contract be upheld based on whatever evidence was put into play, though that may well mean we have to work on the laws involved. But Sony is really the problem here. There is clearly no way…

Yup. That’s one of the things I like about Savage’s advice- getting to know yourself and make yourself into a more interesting person naturally helps to alleviate the sense of unworthiness that leads to excessive fawning over somebody.

Good luck. And get those feelings off your chest; if not to her directly, then to someone who knows you both and can advise. Letting it sit inside doesn’t get easier over time.

I feel your pain, man. I can read people very well except in that particular respect. I’m well past my 20s and I just have no clue.

Even if he has one, it doesn’t seem to be doing her much good anymore.

A friend of mine likes to say she figures at this point, a relationship that will work for her is one where their baggage is color-coordinated.

Assuming your situation is similar to hers and you do meet women, it just doesn’t go very well:

Thank you. It’s bad enough with the lights off, but then sometimes I’m wearing my glasses and I have to take them off, so I’m really not getting much of a visual and it sucks.

Kinda. If you’re just kind of taking the guys as they show up- which would usually mean the ones coming to you rather than ones you’re actively chasing- then, if you’re in your early 20s (which is how it sounds), most of them are going to be clueless at best. Being more active about trying to get with someone…

If it wasn’t a grave mistake for her to turn down the invitation, it will only be due to the fact the others still went.

She posted a picture that she didn’t want representing her. We all understand that of the errors involved here, hers was the smallest, and something all of us would likely do in the same circumstance. But if she brings all this into the light without apologizing, it just throws the Photoshopper under the bus.

In addition to what Olivia said, Rousey also tends to be pretty good at handling things in an upfront manner, and this is something that needed it. If she hadn’t said anything until everyone noticed it was Photoshopped, then there would be more yokels running around saying all her talk about being proud of her body…