What a great fucking story. You must be proud.

WTF?

You are ten kinds and varities of fucked-in-the-head. Good luck with that, boo-boo.

On average it happened weekly, but after awhile you just stop caring, you know it’s coming so why bother getting bent out of shape over it? I think if I was more emotionally caring or sensitive that it would probably bother me more, but at this point it really was just “oh, well that part of childhood sucks”.

Mostly the same experience, except my relationship with my parents are pretty good, at least on a superficial level. But, like, I know it’s not all real because whenever I have a really bad dream it usually involves one of them. The people I’m mad at the most in a bad dream turns out to be one of them.

I have been trying for 10 minutes to put into words how great the comment section is here. Couple times a week there are comments worthy of being whole posts.

Oh, I know, my Dad did the whole whupping thing, and can recall his grandma sending him to get a switch. His Mom once broke a plate over his sister’s head. My mom (who is white, so wtf) is always suggesting my 3 yr old is being defiant and needs a spanking. I don’t think any of those things do anything more than…

Yeah, that shower thing was weird as hell to me. If your kids are old enough to shower by themselves, they are too old to be disciplined in that way, and deserve to have basic privacy around their body.

It may depend on the person. But no one knows what kind of child they got when they are doing this?

That’s just super. I hope he doesn’t lash his children and pass the violence to the next generation.

I got a lot of whuppings as a child. If anything it made me angrier and also kind of got me to think that inflicting pain on someone was a means to show my displeasure with them. So I became violent. But what I saw was violence. My grandma would whup me for something and then later that day, my dad would too or maybe…

Do kids need ass-whoopings? In general, sure. Should those ass-whoopings come from their parents? Fuck no.

I remember going to school and my friend and I compared lash marks on our arms from the spankings our respective parents gave us. I think her parents used an actual rod.

I wish more people would stop pretending they are well-adjusted if they got spankings like I did.

I was spanked, not often but when I was I KNEW what I did to warrant it. And it was only for really serious things. But by the time I was 4 they stopped and that was when it moved to conversations of this is what you did wrong and these are privileges that will now be taken away.

“And, let’s be clear, if you can go to jail for grabbing your spouse (and saying your did it, ‘cause you love them), why it is all right to hit your children?”

People tend to downplay the reason why their kid is being compliant. They just want results. But so much is corrupted when you view children that way.

My life growing up was like this too, though with my mother, not my dad. It definitely gave me a victim vibe that attracted bullies.

I wouldn’t punish my kids, physically or emotionally (degrading rants, screaming in their face). After growing up with a father who first physically punished me and then, after that was made illegal, emotionally destroyed me as punishment whenever I did anything wrong I still freeze up whenever I hear him sounding…

Will you do things differently when or if you become a parent?