“Going outside.”

How did I not think of that pun?

How did I not think of that pun?

Cooking the books is now an app. Actually, I’d rather just get the app that can do this and then print out my own sheets.

Cooking the books is now an app. Actually, I’d rather just get the app that can do this and then print out my own…

it’s always easy in these comments to tell who doesn’t have kids

And flaking at a wedding? If you commit and then back out, the wedding party is still going to pay for your dinner and booze. That’s shitty to do.

Flaking and being late is, IMHO, disrespectful. Wasting someone else’s time is never OK and being consistently late for agreed on meetings or not showing up at all is ridiculously rude.

I don’t have to cut you slack - I just expect an answer. I’m inviting you to an event/party/trip/whatever but you don’t feel up for that much interaction? Just f’n reply no. I have a lot of younger millennial friends (I’m apparently an ‘old millenial’ now) that are planning weddings and can’t get any rsvp’s back.…

It’s always ironic how plans that weren’t important enough for them to show up to before, all of a sudden become “important” to people when they stop getting invites.

I was much more lenient in college, but as an adult, I pretty much have zero tolerance for people who flake ( unless it’s an emergency, which doesn’t really count as flaking in my book).

Just out of curiosity, how old are you, BIMming It? If someone invites one to a dinner party (not a party and not a buffet), where the host is cooking and arranging a specific group of friends to meet, eat, and discuss interesting things, not being able to commit will be a nonstarter. Perhaps, your circle of friends…

My dad, back when I was 11: “Son, the difference between adults and children is planning.” Here in my late 50s, that’s become evidently true.

I feel like if I had a friend like you, I would just never see them, because by Friday I already have something planned. It may just be staying in watching tv on the couch with the bf, but if I didn’t plan in advance to go do a thing, I probably won’t feel like doing it. Plus flaking is the rudest thing.

I don’t really think this makes sense. I mean, if people don’t want to spend time with you/attend X event/whatever, they can just say no in the first place.

Just out of curiosity, this doesn’t apply to formal events does it? Like anything you get an invitation for with a request for an RSVP, such as weddings, sit down dinners, more structured events, etc. Because for those a yes or no is required or else you are really inconveniencing the hosts. I assume this policy is…

It is a privilege to spend time with me, and vise versa. I acknowledge the privilege to spend time with others. My time is valuable. Everyone should feel that friendship is a privilege, not a right. So respect on both sides is crucial.

I’m an introvert so if I actually plan on being somewhere, by god I’m there. If someone flakes on me, I get super annoyed. I have a friend who is a chronic flaker, we were always scheduling beer nights, I’d go out of my way to drive to his side of town, then nope, something came up, busy. I don’t have time for these…

There’s also the spray that comes with a pipe. And the lawsuits. Puffy pink clouds that used to be a co-worker don’t sue.

As someone who deals with flaky people, why is this? I feel like most of the commenters are people who are trying to confront flaky people, but you’re one of the only ones self-identifying as flaky. What is it about plans anytime beyond immediate that causes you to flake? My social group often tries to plan things…

Well, you just might be a flake then. You can’t commit to dinner with friends a few days out? You put low value on these friendships obviously.

Deaf,