Argueably, effective writing is all about orchestrating emotional responses. “Happy about getting the metaphor” might not be what the writer wants you to be primarily feeling at this point in the story (rather than say, sad for the little kid, appalled by the abusive dad), so in that sense it would be a distraction if…

I get criticizing metaphors for being stale - they do tend to lose their power when they get over-used. But a metaphor can be perfectly fresh and inventive and still pretty damn blatant, so that’s apparently not it.

Lots of people are lonely and don’t kill people. Somehow those who end up going that far are more often than not male. Just a coinicdence, of course.

We have to do both. The progress we made here is extremly fragile and there’s long way to go yet. If we rest just for a moment, we won’t have a chance to support others because all around idiots are just slobbering over the idea of turning back time. (Whenever I read right-wing hand-wringing about Isis etc, I can see…

Yeah, the media is way too into taking it for my taste. That apology they issued afterwards was disgusting. Wolf called them out too for a reason.

Well, “dishing but not being able to take it” is widely considered pathetic. You seem to agree when you accuse the media of it. Since Trump has always been very fond of dishing it, yeah, it’s a bad look for him that he can’t take it.
But you’re right, he wouldn’t rise that much in my esteem if he managed to handle a…

It wouldn’t be described as the hardest show to watch if it didn’t hit so close to home. I’ve heard from black women who don’t watch it because they can’t with something being presented as an outrageous dystopy that has been a historical reality for black women in the USA.

With me, it was grad school. I was nominally “writing” my thesis, but I wouldn’t even open the document for weeks; lord knows what I actually did to pass the hours, certainly nothing more productive than gaming. The greatest accomplishment of any given day was often getting something to eat (showering very optional) -…

Neglecting your most important relationships is kinda not taking care of yourself. The term addiction is generally used once a habit is kept up even though it starts having a negative impact on your life, and “getting dumped for no longer contributing to the partnership” would register as a negative impact to most…

Caveat: I’ve often suspected that this sort of desperate escapism might be a form of self-medicamentation. I’ve spent my times in strange ways when I was depressed. In my case it was more maladaptive day-dreaming, and internet surfing, but I imagine gaming could serve the same purpose. If you can talk to each…

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I think it’s great if partners show interest in each other’s hobbies, even, maybe especially when that means learning something new, and and getting out your comfort zone. But it really has to be a mutual effort.

You’re damn right, you don’t need to let yourself be treated like that. It’s not your job to pry him away from his computer. He has to choose you, and he consistently doesn’t. Cutting him loose will probably hurt, because ending things usually does, but but I’ve found I enjoy my own company a lot more when I’m not…

Don’t get me wrong, personally, I find a lot of it profoundly disturbing, but since the popluarity of porn seems to be some sort of anthropological constant I have to conclude I’m the weird one here. It’s a rich tapestry. Disturbing or not, I love when people get creative.

Also, fan fiction writers are usually…

Relax, I’m not coming for you. Just pointing out the double standard. Nothing less weird than people being into porn.

I think he’s done his best work so far just recently, in Penny Dreadful. He seemed to me the epitome of blandly handsome before, but now I get it. Aged extremly well.

For me, the question is: should he be using ostensibly female P.O.V characters when he’s not able to shake the male gaze (as he does in the Marriage Plot for instance)? I guess I wouldn’t mind male gaze at all if it were less ubiquituous and my complaint is always more with the general prevalence of it rather than…

Thank you. Can’t be said enough.

Eh, people do tend to take breaks between writing. From what I hear of other people’s porn habits, they don’t seem to be any less time-consuming. What’s your point exactly? Do you think the craziness lies in investing your own creativity rather than being a passive consumer?

Not any more crazy than anyone else who consumes any form of porn.