Right. But if he has a medical condition you are also not gonna tell him, “this is your fault and responsibility, honey, duh. So don’t expect me to take an active role in YOUR tough time. Now go fix it or bye”.

yeah thats a little asshole-ish. Sometimes people fall out of friendship. Even if his spouse asked him to not hang out with her, there could be plenty of other reasons than just to assume it is her looks. Maybe her friend doesn’t hag out with her because his spouse doesn’t care to hang out with her but not necessarily…

...Communication and compassion are the necessary building blocks of a good sexual relationship.

Dicks aren’t “finicky”.

You’re dead-on about the XO Jane disease, but I am pretty proud of the Jezebel commentariat this morning for being all “This is bullshit. Don’t be an insensitive asshole about the boner problem.”

LW 1: I don’t think you have to be in a romantic relationship, but if a friend is blowing you off, it may be that he’s feeling smothered as your only local friend. Get some hobbies that get you out mingling with others and forming new friendships.

Preach

LW2: dude’s got anxiety through the roof! He’s rushing things so that he can get the P in the V and get off before it goes soft. It’s hard (no pun intended). He probably has a penis-centric (is that a thing?) vision of sex and a fixed idea of how much sex you guys should be having. Hecs generating anxiety with all…

Ugh. One part slightly right, the other really bad.

someone who wrote is riding their pony high.

On the first point, I think a third possibility is that both the LW and her friend are fine, but that they’ve grown apart. It’s possible that the friend’s new (or old? it’s unclear if his behavior has changed or if the LW is just sick of it) friends are perfectly okay and that the LW just doesn’t care for them. The…

A writer who’s decided that being a cross of Helen Gurley Brown and A Riot Grrrl is a good thing.

Yeah, I really appreciate the furthering of the “Women order their boyfriends/husbands about who they can or can’t hang out with! It’s a totally normal thing to do!” schtick.

He’s been at it longer. He has his own site and was writing there long before the Kotaku gig. He also is pretty responsive to reader feedback and can listen to people, which seems to be part of the job. 

Yeah, I thought it was kind of interesting and strange that she just accepted that letter writer’s framing of erectile dysfunction as being something that is someone’s “fault”. It might just be wording, but I really think it’s a mistake to push off something medical as just being one party’s responsibility. It’s not…

Lemme get this straight; an acquaintance is doing the dip on her when she tries to become better friends, and your advice is “it’s cause you’re too pretty, duh!” WTF.

If you think like this, you’re an asshole.

Letter writer, he probably doesn’t like you very much. And it may be due in part or whole to the fact that you…

Just say, “Our sex life is a little, um, weak these days? You know what I’m talking about and you need to figure it out. I love you; call a doctor.” It know this might sound like I’m oversimplifying or being too curt, but with stuff like this, it’s best to just be direct and brief. Blurt it out one morning and go on…

“Last off, his wife probably told him to stop hanging out with you, duh. Which means you are attractive which means you can find a partner which means your friends can have a little time off from taking care of that need which means they’ll want to hang out with you more”

I recommend addressing the foreplay thing first, because that’s something he can absolutely do something about. Then maybe when she starts to enjoy sex more, he will sense it and he too will start to enjoy it more. He could be sensing her disinterest which then causes him to lose the wind from his sails.

you give really bad, dumb advice