I kept reading this story shaking my head, thinking about what would have happened to a little West Indian girl who tried that grown shit.

The skin itchies made me scratch myself till I bled. And then I stopped running altogether because it was so uncomfortable. How long does this phase last?

I wonder about the breakdown if other POC had been included.

Right? I would think she had already aged out of that scene.

Oh yeah. I'm very happy for the progress.

Yup. And also because of what she does. I'm not sure she could walk into a conservative, corporate environment and say the same. It's unfair.

Agreed and I love her. But then again, she can say that. Because she has "acceptable" black hair and the benefit of being Tracee Ellis Ross.

Exactly. I'm about right in the middle of the human color spectrum, so he got to use that. Otherwise it would have been you're so fat/skinny/uneducated/tall/anything to cut me down to size.

Ha! I live in the South, am a brown-skinned black woman and I've heard the same bullshit from black men who tell me how all their previous dates have been light-skinned black women. As if they're granting me a favor by dating me. In my experience though, they're quite often not treating these other women any better.…

While having nothing in retirement at 40 is less than ideal, it's not the end of the world. Someone in this situation still has 20-25 years (or more) to work and save up, although very aggressively, before retirement.

It's probably time to disconnect. It will likely be quite difficult but is for your own good.

This bit of information has blown my mind. Someone call Machel.

So much baby oil.

Oh Stedman :(

He's only just turning 28? I feel so old and unaccomplished now.

I'm struggling with that thought too and feel bad. But I cannot see any scenario where he should be trusted to be back out on the streets. The "fantasy" about the decapitated woman in a dress is especially chilling.

Right? I'm wondering the same thing too.

He waved at people in the court room and freely admits that he would murder again? The thought of this guy ever getting out of jail is honestly making me feel a little ill. I cannot even imagine the shit he would do if given the opportunity.

Oh Mariah! These shoes are NOT aquarium shoes. Luv ya anyway.

This is the dating scene in Atlanta. She's lucky he didn't tell her about the ratios and how there are 5 or 9 women for every straight man so she should just shut up and stop being so damn picky. Every jerk figures he's some kind of catch.