Why would I want to go around making absolute moral judgements of my friend's behaviour? I'm not going to end a friendship because a friend fucked a married guy, what a sad little world you must live in if your friendship is limited to perfectly moral beings who never fuck up.

So dashley's friend did something wrong and had an affair with a married man. Should she stop being friends with her? Why is the blame factor so important to you? If it were my friend, I'd tell her it's not a good idea because ultimately the guy is using her and is not going to leave his wife and even if he did what…

lol @ "a white".

Sweetie, the whole black feminist vs white feminist bullshit is tired and divisive and only hurts women in general, so no, I'm not engaging in your amateur bullshit.

I doubt it, since the first negates the second, but nice try.

Are you asking that because you're genuinely interested in a discussion or because you want to dismiss people's opinions based on the colour of their skin?

So awful. Glad they found her. Was it just random or did he know her from somewhere?

That's one aspect of it for sure. But that's not the issue I have with the feminist movement. I know feminism isn't about women who hate men. Feminism's image problem isn't solely due to its meaning having been distorted over time or the connotation that feminism = man hater.

Calm down. Yes, race matters. All I'm saying, is that it's not the only thing that matters here, and that tweeting this kind of inappropriate remark to any woman would be offensive and display the typical lack of boundaries that some men feel they are entitled to when it comes to women. I think of it as not that…

That, and the fact that feminst circles can be hostile and intolerant. I'm a feminist but I definitely have issues with the movement.

Why are they saying it though? I think that's the more interesting question. And it's not just celebrities - I've met some very intelligent women who say the same thing. And I think a large part of it is that feminism has an image problem. And rather than just roll our eyes, as feminists we also have to figure out why…

Seriously? You think punching someone in the face is just as bad as daring to tell a mother with an out of control brat to maybe calm her kid down a little? Seriously?

Because one fantasy is zero risk to me personally, or to anyone, if someone wanted to act it out. The other is sexual assault

I'm sure domination is a part of it. My point is - it doesn't matter. As long as it's a fantasy and not something that someone intends to act in real life, who cares if it's about raping, being raped, roman orgies or underage lolitas? You say you believe there's a difference between fantasy and reality but while you…

Department stores have much better selections of bras and underwear than people give them credit for. Lord & Taylor, Macy's, Nordstrom, etc. carry bras that are in the same price range as VS, and better quality.

Nothing to do with sophistication and everything to do with the fact that every pair of underwear I've ever bought from there would ride up and violate my butt all day, and I could never find a bra that wasn't a tacky push up or that didn't give me weird boob shape.

Sure, in the sense that they're different fantasies and one is about submission and the other about domination. They are different things that are in the realm of fantasy regardless. You can't say that there's a difference between fantasy and reality as long as it's a woman fantasising about getting raped, but the…

Their bras and underwear are cheap, poorly made and overpriced anyway. I'm more perplexed by their popularity than by the stupidity of the campaign.

Agree. I wasn't necessarily just addressing your comment but I just find it curious that all the reactions are focused on the fact that she's a black woman and his fantasies involved Thomas Jefferson and his slave, and not on the fact that he's tweeting his sexual fantasy to a woman he's never met and never asked for…

And lots of women have rape fantasies too. So by the same "logic" you're employing, it would be fair to say those women are secretly hoping someone will rape them for real, right?