No, of course not their fault. However, every time I use my credit card or do online banking, I acknowledge there's a risk that my card could be cloned and/or my information stolen. I acknowledge the risk, and I have insurance specifically for that, and in fact I've had my card cloned twice and both times my bank has…

Absolutely. However, as much as it's on THEM, the person whose naked pictures got leaked is the one who has to live with those pictures getting out, so if an asshole ex published naked pictures of me online, even if he went to jail, I still have to deal with the fact that there are naked pictures of me on the…

But people are not trustworthy, I'm sorry - they just aren't. I've been asked for naked pics a few times over the years (I'm also an old) and I sure was tempted - I can see the appeal, and it's your body your life - celebrate that! But I'm so glad in hindsight that I never did. So, so glad. Naked or compromising…

How is it victim blame-y to remind people that there are assholes and criminals out there? Yes, the blame lies with the assholes and criminals but that doesn't change the fact that they're there and they could hurt you by putting your pictures on the internet. How is it victim blame-y to tell people that they have…

Yes, you do. Unfortunately, not everyone out there respects these rights and some people are assholes and could hurt you by leaking these pictures on the internet or sending them to people close to you. I think the point is that if you take naked pictures, know there are risks. Again, not that it's your fault if they…

LOL I'm totally on board with some things on Jez, others I don't agree with and I don't care if that makes me "problematic" (don't you love that word?). Nothing too egregious, mind you. But enough that they stopped following me and relegated me to the greys for refusing to drink the kool-aid ;)

This.

This isn't just about domestic violence in the NFL. It goes back to the culture of hero worship and impunity that surrounds athletes, from the moment they're spotted/recruited (usually in high school) to college sports to the professional leagues. They get away with failing classes, acting like violent assholes,…

Exactly. People are people. Some people are assholes, and it applies as much to men as it does to women.

Oh, please. Not everything wrong with humanity can be pinned on MRAs (a lot can, but not everything). In fact, this profile sounds like a friend of mine, whom I love dearly but who is, in fact, extremely neurotic and demanding but has no idea that she is, and can't believe it when guys she's been dating for 3 minutes…

I admit, I'm a book snob. I don't read popular fiction, with a few exceptions (Harry Potter). If I'm too lazy or tired to read anything challenging, I've got my subscription to New York magazine and the internet. I guess this means I'll always come off as a snob in the gees surveys but what do you want people to…

If I beat someone up and there are witnesses, but my victim doesn't want to press charges, does that mean I should be let off the hook? I don't think so.

Do you really think this only happened once? And yeah, being abused does diminish or take away your capacity to think about your life situation rationally. I see it with my sister. Her husband isn't physically abusive but he's emotionally abusive and dominant and constantly belittles her. And she doesn't even see it…

Just look at him! Of course he's innocent. That's obviously the face and neck tattoo of a gentle pacifist.

And yet, according to some, there's no obesity epidemic, it's all an invention...

Even if you don't get to choose your doctor, I would recommend sitting down with her/him and asking them pretty much every question that comes to mind. I had a wonderful surgeon who sat down with me and let me ask all the questions I could think of, air all my worries and he was patient and funny and went through the…

Except my Facebook is mine, and what I post on it reflects my opinion, whereas an editorial page in a paper is supposed to present many different views. Also, this op-Ed was printed within a larger piece that even carried a disclaimer stating that they were presenting the different views on a broader issue. Which is…

Why shouldn't the paper publish it though? And same goes for climate change denial. Or creationism being taught in public schools. Or any other rubbish opinion people have. Yes, I think it's ridiculous. I think it's only a matter of time before anyone who thinks that will be proved wrong beyond a shadow of a doubt and…

You'll never be an AAA cup. Unfortunately. I would be happy to have itty bitty mosquito bite boobies. But your surgeon will evaluate you and see how much they can take out, and keep things proportional to your frame. After my reduction I was a C. When I do a lot of yoga and eat right and my weight is lower, I can go…

DO IT. Trust me. Research your surgeon and the technique he intends to use. I had what's called the "anchor" but some doctors also manage to do it without the scar under the boob, though I think that's rare and it depends on your size/shape and how much you're having removed.