I guess you didn't see the part where I said not everyone has to care about what they're wearing, and that's fine? So spare me the self-righteous indignation, or, in keeping with the tone of your post, choke on it.

Then go to thrift stores where you can get lucky and find beautiful designer pieces for nothing. My point is, there are ways around spending mucho money on clothes to look halfway decent. And it starts with having a little bit of self-awareness about your body and what it looks good in, and understanding how clothes…

I wish I could recommend that 5558798987888 times.

Yes yes but most people in New York are not destitute and have at least enough money for H&M.

lol that's not what I'm talking about at all but ok. It's not about the amount of flesh one shows or not, it's about fit, proportion and style.

Maybe. But that would be speculation and not what she said at all in the quote above.

And if those mermaid leggings suit you and flatter your body and are in keeping with your personal style, wear the hell out of them. That's not what she's saying. She's telling women to take the time to learn what clothes flatter their body and their personality, and to dress accordingly. It has nothing to do with how…

It's so hard suffering through poor sartorial choices, right? Why can't everyone dress like First Lady Michelle Obama or Jackie O, is what Herrera wants to know! Well Herrera, your average New Yorker probably doesn't have Onassis or MObama's clothing budget or, you know, designers like yourself sending them swag for…

exactly! I think a lot of people don't understand that we can be critical of this as an art piece, while supportive of her cause and the statement she's trying to make. For me they are two separate things.

I think it's a great political statement. As an art piece, it is obvious and pedestrian. Tracy Emin already practically built her career on exhibiting her bed, so if you're going to use that in an art installation, it better be in an original and groundbreaking way, which this most definitely is not.

I have to agree. It's a great political statement but it's kind of a shitty art piece and not worthy of a thesis project. The two aren't one and the same.

You're welcome. And I'm 35. And yes, you do keep maturing but I do think that past age 30 or thereabouts, age differences are much less of an issue, and it's more about what's going on in your life and what your interests and priorities are (kids vs. no kids, whether or not you like to travel, etc.) than about age. I…

I think you do most of your maturing and changing from 25 to 30 and once you hit your 30s your personality and character are pretty much defined, and your lifestyle should be more or less "adult" by this point too. So if anything, I think marrying a 31 year-old makes sense for a guy in his late 50s who's been married…

Jeff Goldblum has been my one constant crush. I have lusted after him since I was about 7 or 8 and I hid in my parents room and watched The Fly on cable while they had people over for dinner downstairs and I was supposed to be in bed.

Why? She's a 31 year-old woman, not a baby.

Simple curiosity. I've also tried my cat's treats just to see what they taste like.

I do. And it is annoying. At the same time, I'm also aware of the fact that it will be a long time before we change the way people think and there are no longer men who are raised to think they are entitled to women's bodies, and I doubt we'll ever be rid of all criminals and rapists. And unfortunately, the biological…

No problem! It's an interesting discussion and it's always good to remember that there's a lot of variation among pro-choice people as to what that should entail exactly.

Of course it's not for attention. Personally I probably wouldn't feel the need to announce it but that's me. And I also clearly said in my comment that I think that if the letter writer feels she needs to come out to her family then she should by all means. I'm just saying that I personally don't understand but am…

Yes, it's her body. And I will defend a woman's right to choose until my face turns blue but I think it's also equally important that there be certain limitations in place.