Identification with the abuser is a very, very common response not only to the trauma of sexual assault, but to being exposed to it as a feature of one’s environment (this is sometimes called by proxy abuse/assault). I don’t know whether Yoffe was assaulted, but the way she talks and thinks about those who commit…

I actually can’t stand Daniel’s advice a lot of the time (I think he overidentifies with certain people in various scenarios and then completely fails to show sympathy in others and can be very harsh when it isn’t necessarily warranted), but I still somehow blame Emily Yoffe for that because it seems like Slate’s main…

Also, ‘member when she found out her (now ex-) husband was cheating on her and went full messy and emailed the details of his cheating to everyone in both their address books? She’s got a bit of Brandi Glanville in her and I'm here for it.

What rhetorical fireworks. You win this argument because...you’re a lawyer in real life and an internet stranger didn’t know. You didn’t argue a single one of my points and given your reputation far and wide as a budding Clarence Darrow, that seems odd. But ok. Perhaps, since it’s so easy and you’re an actual lawyer,…

Keep Legends of the Fall Brad. I’ve-been-through-some-shit-and-I’m-in-my-50s-Brad is so fine. He seems more human now but no less sexy. Also, he reads in his personal life as a very sweetly stupid person who wants, goddammit, to broaden his horizons. I dated a guy like this in high school. Dumb as a box of hair. But…

Dakota Fanning.

If you have roughly average size boobs, this doesn’t surprise me at all—Target is the bomb. If you have big, heavy, post-baby boobs and could find bras anywhere but a specialty store (or ordering UK brands on Amazon), I want to hear allllllll about it because I am clearly doing something wrong. Even those fucking…

I wear a 32G in Simone Perele and UK bras, which seems to translate into their DD or DDD, depending on the bra. I found that their sizing didn’t totally align with my fancy bra sizing and I had to do some guess and check work but the purchase-return-repurchase process felt not that annoying given the price. A lot of…

Also, you don’t know why it would cost a fortune? Because VS is clear on what it has that the other guy doesn’t have: in-house counsel and lots of money to pay it. So they’ll file motion after motion after motion after motion to drag things on and bleed out the other guy. They’ll bury the plaintiff in mounds of…

Some will, yes. They usually take at least 30-40% plus costs, assuming they have the capital to lay out to work without being paid for several years. Once you narrow down firms that are willing to do this to reputable firms, you have very few options and a person might feel they’d rather not put themselves through a…

Page Six obviously doesn’t know what color either of these women’s hair actually is.  That’s not just colored dye on top of “roots.”  Those roots had to be bleached and then colored.  I don’t know why this is my biggest quibble with Page Six at the moment, but it is.

Probably because it costs a fortune and when a small business takes on a big one, it’s war by attrition.  VS can afford to starve her out.

Dedacted because double-post.

Ok you’re never going to believe me on this, but I have giant boobs (well maybe you believe that part) made suuuuper...let’s say, gravitationally advantaged by nursing in the past. Now I’m pregnant again and have gained 50 lbs of baby weight (go me?) and had to get a new bra but didn’t want to spend a fortune (my…

This. I’m of the mindset that people are really good at somewhere between 1-3 things. I don’t need or expect John to be H.L. Mencken any more than I want to see Mencken utter those inimitable words, “Have mercy.”

Viewers should be grateful Halsey didn’t fucking put in ear buds. It makes me irrationally furious that Shawn (or his “people”) wrote a song that, as its main hook, requires him to gracefully cross his vocal break, of which he is incapable. The motherfucker either coincidentally steps back from the mic, sings…

Also, what political positions has Chelsea espoused ever, let alone so repellent that you’d rather vote for a Republican? Maxine is talking about a party whose members have done nothing to stop the internment of immigrant children (and the recent removal of human rights protections of their health), who have declared…

This is an honest question and not an internet-stranger-provocation one: are you a woman? And if so, have you ever tried anything like this when you’re being bullied in a professional or fuck, even social setting? It backfires explosively, even in fairly forward-thinking circles. I work in (1) academia (2) on the east…

Oh my Jesus.  You honestly think Bernie could’ve won.  Die on that hill, my friend.

You cannot be serious. A more polished campaigner and debater than Hillary? I sincerely doubt such a person exists. If anything, the problem with Hillary is/was that she is too good: she’s too polished, too smart, too driven, too clear in her message, too desirous of her goals, too preoccupied with lining up exactly…