I can really relate to this and that’s why her death hit me particularly hard yesterday.

don’t like to show their effort: That spoils the magic

Many of the most successful, self-possessed, vibrant, independent women in my life struggle mightily with depression and anxiety, and go between wanting to put it all out there — listen, if I can live through this, so can you — and wanting to keep it all hidden, because showing weakness will ruin her capacity to be a…

This is exactly how I feel too. I would’ve found her brand more authentic, as well. But I can understand how it would feel so isolating, and is much easier said than done. It could seem like you have two choices as a public persona - a hard shell, or totally open and vulnerable. I’m really sad for her and her family,…

It really speaks to the need to destigmatize mental illness. Whether it’s situation depression or a chronic disgnosis, it’s part of the human condition and admitting that only makes it easier for others to talk about their experiences and realize they are not alone.

Saffo said she and Andy Spade tried to help Kate check into treatment centers, but that she never went because “the ‘image’ of her brand (happy-go-lucky Kate Spade) was more important for her to keep up. She was definitely worried about what people would say if they found out.”

I read this and I’ve now spent about 30 minutes wondering about the lives of the respective parties involved given what we know from the obit. Take what we know about Kathleen Dehmlow: Married at 18-19 (so young), two kids and pregnant with a third by 24 (still really young). Moves to California, abandoning two kids…

The owners deserve this mess, and I love watching them wallow in it.

So, on official review, it was determined that it was not a vote.

Completely agree - I could not be more sickened by the coverage of the father’s words, and the many, many headlines that imply that the girl(s) brought it on themselves.

I have two little boys and it scares the crap out of me that I’m going to fail at exactly what you mentioned above.

The media may be reporting that, but people in this area are not buying it. My whole office has nothing but contempt for the shooter’s family trying to play like he is a victim. Most people want the father arrested too- for failing to secure his firearms. People are pissed.

Great writing.

I don’t know if there is a “right” way for parents to behave and speak out after something like this but this feels gross to me. Apologize for what your child did and then shut up. I’m sure it’s hard to process something like this but it’s just not the same thing as having your child murdered in cold blood, ESPECIALLY…

You are replying to the wrong person, but I will say this about Jay: If you believe the basic framework of his stories, HE was the one who knew where Hae’s car was, HE was in Leakin Park that night burying her body, HE told Jen that Hae was dead and he knew where she was buried before the police found out, HE knew how…

or his beard(s).

That’s a...strong opinion.

I love the “HE DID IT” posts. Even if he did, there is no way they should have convicted based on that shitshow of a trial. I’m down for more info.

The podcast Crime Junkie recently did an episode on everything about Adnan Syed’s case that Serial didn’t cover. I can’t recommend it enough. In fact the whole podcast is awesome.

“Horton, Here’s a Poo!”