After being raped I had many months of “false starts.”

That depends on your relationship with them. If kids are involved, if you’re co-parenting, then almost certainly yes. If there are still mutual friends and you have a reason to think there may be a melt-down, yes, as a courtesy to your mutual friends if no one else! Of course, in that case, you may want to ask one of…

No way. Your relationship with your ex ended. There’s no need to work your new relationship around your old one, it should be independant. If kids are involved or you and the ex stayed very close friends then that may warrant a more personal announcement - akin to how you might tell your parents, since you presumably…

No. You aren’t dating them anymore, they aren’t family, and it’s none of their business. Why would you?

I think that’s going to depend on your relationship with said ex. If you aren’t involved in each others lives at all, and it’s been a while, it’s probably not necessary. Might be rude even. Whereas, if you do still interact, and things are awkward or you just know it will affect them, then yeah. Give them a heads up.…

So I love Jezebel as much as the next feminist but this article...

It’s “wholesome” for fans because as a White Girl, she can retain the mythos of virginity and patrician privilege. She gives off that East coast patrician vibe even as they tried to shellack her in a Nashville veneer. She is very White. Which means, despite a string of boyfriends, white dudes (and girls) can imagine…

Well it’s not fucking funny. Take care of your neck you said .

THIS. Age happens because you’re alive, and it shouldn’t be a source of shame to have evidence of having lived.

Fucking really?

Can you keep the gross body snark to yourself? There’s nothing wrong with her neck. She’s a mature woman and she looks great.

No, this is a widely-discussed thing about porn. Some white adult actresses will even come out and say that they know it’s shitty, but they can’t risk taking scenes with black men, especially early in their careers. Unclear how much of this bias comes from the customers and how much comes from the men in power in the…

I can tell when people are getting bored or annoyed when I’m talking. To miss all the cues that someone is embarrassed, miserable, and SO TOTALLY NOT WANTING TO BE THERE smacks of a serious amount of tone-deafness that would frankly be concerning. If it was totally obvious to the waitstaff, who have 50 million other…

No, see, it can be both. Many stalkers genuinely believe that they have a romantic relationship with their victims. An inability or unwillingness to pick up cues like this is definitely a warning sign for bad behavior that could get violent.

As a child, I idolized Indiana Jones, and even wanted to be an archeologist or professor as an adult, and sure as hell wanted a fedora. When I was old enough to buy things, this fedora gentleman thing happened. Why must life be so cruel?

The difference is that race/gender aren’t central elements to those characters. There’s nothing about Janet (Louis CK’s wife on the show) that says she can’t be Black, nothing, not even the fact that she has white children. It’s definitely possible for visibly Black women to bear white passing children. Also, they…

The bad part is I could totally see it being the premise for a Hollywood rom-com. “Meg Ryan thought she was gonna be dead in two years when she promised Tom Hanks a date in five years. Now she’s a survivor who’s finally ready to live, and he’s a hopeless romantic with a heart of gold. Coming to theatres this November,…

I can’t believe I’m about to type this:

All I could think is ‘what a fucking asshole’. The woman managed to survive cancer and he used that knowledge to try to force her into a relationship by ‘celebrating’ this achievement. A celebration that was painfully uncomfortable and clearly not wanted then actually had the nerve to be upset that she didn’t…