I think you're absolutely right. I should have made mention of that in my original comment. Indeed, a conversation like that would likely run into some issues with censorship, but I think it's also worth noting that a situation like the one described in the episode (whether or not a partner "accidentally slipped it…

Honestly, what I'd like to see is characters talking about it. They don't even have to like it, but this whole "oops, I tried to do something I didn't think you'd be comfortable with, so I just did it anyway" shit isn't cute or funny, and really, it's the kind of manipulative behavior that should be called out for…

Well, to be fair, an arrangement like that isn't necessarily a sign of immaturity. Just because someone shares your interests and likes to have sex with you doesn't mean that they're good relationship material. But if she thinks it's exclusive or moving towards something else and he knows it's not, then there's a…

The taste of condoms can be a little off-putting at first, but I never perform oral without some kind of barrier. It prevents the spread of disease (I mean, I would like to think I can trust my partners in telling me the truth, but you never know), and it makes the where-does-the-semen-go question irrelevant. I've…

I'm not exactly a man :) I think for a lot of people, especially women, you're taught to avoid conflict and try to get your way without having to talk about it. You see this advice in both men's and women's magazines, so it's really a shame to see it repeated here.

Hmm, I'm not sure. I think what might help is looking at menus beforehand? If you or he picked a place out online, instead of walking in, you guys could have a look at the menu, take your time, look things up you don't know, and get an idea of what you might like (pick a back-up in case there's a problem with your…

I love them, too! I don't mind if they look "bad". Frankly, most fashion is laughed at in the future, anyway, so why not just wear what I like best?

That's a good point :) Someone else pointed out the confidence issue, which I skirted over completely. Indeed, if the problem is comfort and not getting him to dress up, then I think giving compliments is a great way to go. I think they should be subtle and genuine, because I know I can tell the difference between,…

That's a very good point. Confidence/self-consciousness can really affect how someone dresses, and it's very reasonable to keep that in mind. If he feels nervous or upset, I think a nice, genuine, subtle compliment can go far. It really depends on his personality, like you said!

Exactly! It felt so embarrassing to have people make a big deal out of it. I didn't think anyone would pay attention to what I was wearing, and here I find out that they apparently do! I feel like a nice, well-placed, genuine compliment goes way further than fawning.

That's a good question! Most of my examples are kinda old, since I've since figured out how to dress more appropriately and haven't had anyone talk to me about it in a while. One I can think of was my ex-fiance's sister's wedding (sorry for that!). I wasn't sure what to wear, and he originally told me it was…

Yeah, I assume that most adults can hear reasonable criticism! It becomes a lot harder when someone won't hear a word on it, and that's a situation I'm not sure about.

Aww, thanks! :D

I would do it if I could! I think that men need to hear that advice, and not passive-aggressive shit, either. None of this, "FINE, I'll go, but I'll sigh and squirm the whole time,". Be a good sport and be nice!

Well, if it were me (I do have tendencies similar to that), I think it's perfectly appropriate to ask him to wear clothes that are not falling apart outside the house. Inside the house, whatever makes him comfortable. I mean, it's good to try to use things as long as possible, but there are times and places for it,…

You sound like the kind of partner that I would really appreciate, and I'm sure your partner appreciates it, too. I hate being tricked or forced. Just talk to me with respect and dignity! I think you found a great way to handle it, and I think your situation is a perfect example of how to handle those types of…

I admit that it was also my mother's tactic, so I am biased. It made me feel so embarrassed and angry, because I was capable of dressing up, but I never enjoyed it. I did it when necessary, and everyone made such a big deal about it that it felt more like punishment or humiliation than any kind of "reward".

As the resident Paul Bunyan in many of my relationships, please don't do that. It's pretty condescending and infantilizing. I'm on to people who do it, and it makes me feel manipulated, and honestly, rather angry.

I agree. I mean, my "dealbreakers" are things that are quite serious, such as whether or not this person wants children (I am on the "no" side, and a long-term partner has to feel the same or it won't work), has a violent temper, is bigoted (homophobic, transphobic, racist, sexist, ableist, etc.), or is really into…

That's so rude of them! I don't get people who are so insistent on including everyone in their sex.