It's so sad. People don't take them seriously, and treat it like it's just some amazing thing they get to experience, and I'm sure they feel so isolated. I hope he finds something that works.

Thank you! I mostly meant the mom - I'm trying to get her to trust me to handle the kittens :) If they toddle out, she gets anxious if I pick them up, but if I reach back to where she keeps them, she hisses. I want to show her she can trust me. She was a stray, I think, but maybe was once kept as a pet? She's not…

I am fostering a cat, and I wonder if you have any tips! She had kittens about two and a half weeks ago, and I want to make certain I don't push her too hard or ignore her, either. It'd be great to hear from someone with more experience.

It's possible, but honestly, if I don't move to where he is, I probably won't ever see him again. We aren't from the same place and we don't have plans to be in the same place.

This is also my tactic. I have found it to work very well, and honestly, I don't even need to take bras off to feel comfortable. It's so nice.

To be a little fair to your friend, having a baby or child present changes the dynamic of the outing, whether you're telling baby anecdotes or not, and sometimes, it's just not something you want to do.

The pretty standard stuff, I think. It should tell me something about the person writing to me, ask a question that can start a conversation, and that's really about it. "Hey, how are you?" isn't a good conversation-starter online, unless it's with a person you already know (to me, it seems like either a brush-off…

I disagree (for myself, of course!). My interest can be deflated by a terrible message. Someone who seems interesting/a good match who writes "hey how are you" is unlikely to get a response from me. Others may feel differently, but it suggests to me that conversation is going to be like pulling teeth, and that's…

Yeah, I know what you mean. I find my own period to be gross and I don't really want anything to do with it, and it would depend on why a partner found it gross. If it was just "well, that's a waste product and I don't want it in/on my mouth and fingers", okay, cool, we're on the same page. If it's "oh my god, icky…

Is that a stereotype about French men? I'm curious!

I'm not trying to be contradictory, just offering up my experience, but I'd way rather hear "I'm not feeling it," than get nothing. I'm temporarily upset, sure, and it hurts my feelings a little, but getting ignored makes me feel terrible. It feels so insulting and rude to me. I mean, I get over that, too, but I'd…

I'm no expert, but I always find it pretty rude. I mean, depending on how often you communicate, it could be obvious very quickly or it could be very drawn-out. If you were sort of into the person and weren't sure where things were going, you might wait some time before realizing you've been faded on. I think it's…

I spread out the buying throughout the year, not necessarily because I love Christmas, but because it's easier on my budget to do so.

I can't say that I have a huge number of partners, but I don't think it's that small, either. I've had regrets, but the thing is, you can have regrets no matter what you do. Do I wish I hadn't slept with some of my partners? Sure. But dating them and "waiting" wouldn't have necessarily saved me. Instead, it might…

I don't really get the pranking-kids-so-they-cry thing, because it seems like crying children are pretty unpleasant, so why bring it on? It seems kind of mean to play a trick on them that they literally can't understand, but then again, I'm not much of a kid person, so I probably don't get it.

I got to hold one of the week-old kittens I'm fostering! Their eyes just opened, the shelter came and checked on them and gave them a clean bill of health (and said they are fat and beautiful). The mom sometimes lets me pet her, so I'm pleased.

I'm fostering, too! I have a mother and kittens. It's my very first foster (and to be honest with you, really, it's my first time taking care of a cat other than catsitting/living with someone else's cat), and she gave birth in my apartment. I am constantly worried that something's wrong and she's miserable and…

I am still hoping that after school programs finish, I can reunite with that particular ex. We were wonderful, very happy, very well-matched, and we broke up because long distance over 4 years is a TERRIBLE plan. We're both nearly 30 and trying to juggle all this shit, and while I know it probably won't work, I…

I guess I'd ask why it doesn't count. Is reading, for example, fanfiction, really so different from reading romance novels? Is reading an opinion essay that much different than reading anthologies about that same topic?

I can't help but disagree here, at least a little. I don't want to give everyone a shot, and not everyone needs to give me a shot, either. Sometimes, you know very early on that this person won't work romantically. Sometimes, it's a big thing, sometimes, it's a little one.