How many racists do you think your blacks friends will meet in their lifetime? A day? A week?

This is working the other generational way, too. This family has shunned their neo-Nazi son.

Apparently you’ve never dealt with toxic parents before. My own father is a hardcore narcissist, an avowed anti-Semite that blames Jews for all his problems, and anti-white to boot. And when I called him out on it, he threw a temper tantrum. So, you’re saying I should just grin and bear his toxicity? I should just say…

Seriously? Political bullshit? FOH with that white nonsense.

You clearly do not have a toxic parent.

Yeah, but if your mom were to gleefully tell you how much she voted against your interests and then demand that you agree with her? Throw tantrums when you don’t? Refuses to agree to disagree? Says the fact that you don’t like who she voted for means you’re “disrespectful?” That’s where it crosses the line for me.

Yep. If I had a dollar for all the people in my life who’ve said “you have to forgive X! It’s not a purity test!” and turned out to be absolutely vile people.

I totally agree. There’s also the lead poisoning angle, which made them the most toxic and angry generation, while Gen X and millennials are statistically more peaceful and less criminal. IDK how true the lead poisoning theory is, but I like it, lol.

I’m so happy to see that this was the first comment. People who think that family should somehow be “spared” when they are toxic like this are maddening to me. Your parents do not get a free pass on dehumanizing you or demeaning you and no one is required to support family unreservedly.

Because white baby boomers are selfish, reactionary, ignorant, coddled, entitled canker sores who will have leached all of the resources from their parents, children, and grandchildren before they all shuffle off this mortal coil?

more evidence of your blind privilege: the fact that you can look at these issues as merely “political” and not “life threatening.” enjoy your cake.

Are you serious? It means that just because someone is your family doesn’t mean you should excuse their beliefs that put you in danger and don’t recognize you as a human. You didn’t get that? Fund the schools, people. 

The author did not mix the two, the mother brought the politics and the toxicity. Fuck off and think about why people cut you off from their lives.

Second that. I decided there are limits. I cut off my father from my life. I did not even invite him to my wedding. These years without his horrible voice telling me I will never amount to anything have been the best.

If you consider this stuff bullshit, you’re either so privileged that you can afford not to pay attention or you’re wilfully ignoring it to the point of agreement. Skate on.

Oof, that’s the sound of someone who has had the privilege of a parent who hasn’t emotionally, physically, or sexually abused you until you had to take the socially unacceptable step of protecting yourself by distancing yourself from them. You don’t owe your parents your love, fidelity, and respect if they never…

Don’t blame the writer for your lack of reading comprehension. The term made perfect sense to me.

I’ve been estranged from my father for 30 years. At first it was because he was physically and emotionally abusive, I turned 18 and moved out. He was trucking with Lyndon LaRouche when I was in high school but he’s moved into full on right wing conspiracy nutjob over the years and was yelling for State’s Rights while…

I had a coworker who cut her parents off right after the election. She’s white, a lesbian in an interracial marriage (her wife is Latina). Her parents voted for 45. She was like “No, we will not be coming to your house for Thanksgiving, and I see no need for us to speak further.” She has 3 or 4 siblings who are like…

The expression “blood is thicker than water” originally meant that the bond between comrades is stronger than family, as in bathing in the blood of your enemies is a pretty powerful bonding experience, and it has been bastardized into meaning the exact opposite.