Really? You seriously don't know what was in that email?

I hear you. My mother's classic move is to call everyone but me and anxiously ask if they've heard from me because she hasn't and is so worried about me. Of course, I then get raked over the coals for not contacting her. She has all of my contact information but it doesn't count if she calls me first.

I think a lot of this is that people who are close with their family don't understand the concept of not being close with your family. My parents weren't abusive, and I don't actively dislike them or anything, but...I just don't want to be around them. Like, almost ever. I have one or two things in common with my…

My mother was never physically abusive. Verbally and emotionally abusive was her thing. There are so many stories I could tell, but the one that really sticks out (and showcases her ability to bamboozle outsiders into believing her to be a saint) is my go-to story:

Ugh. My mom would write this as well. We talk 2 or 3 times a month, but in her mind, she thinks I should come home more. I live in DC, she lives in Pittsburgh. I come home for all major holidays. Sorry I'm an adult with a job. Maybe try visiting (which I've offered) as you are a retiree with oodles of free time.

Or my personal favorite:

YES. It it doesn't support their narrative, it didn't happen.

Many times it is the parent who first cuts off contact with the adult child who won't conform in some way to their dictatorial attitude. The formerly abusive parent then tells everyone their child won't talk to them. Parents who are abusers often spend the child's life telling everyone around them how horrible their…

Oh yeah. I've seen it happen over and over. I mean as an adult I get that there are three sides to every story: Mine, yours and the truth - but the angry self - righteousness of people who physically abused me and literally abandoned me (as opposed to the equally sucky emotional abandonment) makes flames grow out of…

As the child of a narcissist (my father- thankfully my mother raised me) I can guarantee that grown children do not cut off ties with their parents because the parent did too good a job at building the child's self-esteem or because the parent won't support the view that the child has of themselves. Not talking to a…

I think sometimes abusive parents have a tendency to believe the lies they've told themselves about how wonderful their children's childhoods were. Particularly if their children turned out to be decent adults.

Thank you, I totally will! It's Friday and you're leaving!

Hmmmm. I always thought that young women went to college so they could live an independent life, and not have to rely on a man for their financial well being.

welp

God the fucking male entitlement just starts SO. EARLY.

Pretty sure this woman's feelings or consent didn't even enter into his mind.

Isn't it just bent behind her?

The Lemon Cake Male Objectification Experiment, a/k/a The Male Glaze.

What are specific things that we can do to fight this? And if you say, "Call/write your congressman/senator/governor", I will laugh myself to death. Those fuckers don't just NOT care what I have to say, or if I vote for them, they actively do not want me — or those like me — to do so. They don't want to have anything…

They really should be expelled. Guys who think drugging and raping people is funny should not have access to the drugs that dentists so commonly use to numb pain or make people unconscious.