It's easier to say than to do, but you have to convince yourself that it isn't personal. Just like a retail manager needs to shake off the person stealing from the store, it's best if you can tell yourself that they would have ghosted anyone, and that it's not personal. Good luck.

Hey there, and welcome to your Savage Lovecast recap for the week of December 13. I still haven’t put up my holiday decorations, and I don’t feel bad about it. Let’s get to it.

The she refers to the friend in the first sentence. Sorry that wasn't clear.

Oh, I get it! I get jokes.

I bought my wife a toy as a gift that we picked out together. I recommend that route.

Thanks for sharing. My wife would be better if she could establish boundaries, but due to some complicated financial and psychological stuff, it's been really hard. All I can do is be here

Yeah, I'm not coming down one way or the other whether it's a forgivable offense. I'm just saying that the way Dan framed it is particularly unhelpful.

Plus solar and wind power that is small now but growing.

Toad fingered the blue shell gingerly. Could he stand to meet the front-runner of his affection in this contrived way?

It's cold here now (only 50 degrees!). The Heard Museum is wonderful, and when you're in town, I will take you to the Barrio Cafe for some of the best Mexican food you've ever had.

Not yet!

The ultimate road trip would just be a shot-for-shot remake of "To Wong Foo, Thanks For Everything, Julie Newmar."

Ouch. I love Phoenix and the downtown area is actually really progressive and growing. One of the only red states that voted more for Hillary than Obama.

I hope it is like riding a bike where it gets easier the more you try. And just like with partnered sex, not having an orgasm doesn't mean you failed.

At least he could have said a city that's up and coming blue, like Houston or Phoenix.

I always thought Beer Pong was a straight guy activity.

Mine is that my wife's demanding retail job doesn't drain all of the joy out of her until the New Year.

I'm so sorry, and I want you to know I understand that PTSD does such a number on everyone it touches.

With the exception of Ohio, those are states that were supposed to be part of the "blue wall." If people have to move there to turn those states blue again, that represents a lot of lost ground. Which is demoralizing, no matter which way you slice it.

Why is guilt attached to your masturbation? Resolving that is going to involve more than a stocking stuffer, if you know what I mean.