I just don’t even know anymore. I don’t want to define “sex” or “rape” for anyone because clearly we all have different experiences. But they are not even in the same category, let alone to be “counted” as one experience?

I’m sorry is that opening question rhetorical?

I think the reason people are interested in the number of sexual partners someone’s had is because it (in theory, in some ways) might demonstrate that person’s judgment or their desirability or restraint or history of partying or sexual/social capital or whatever. Even if you’re doing so incorrectly or unfairly you…

“I should wager it feels dishonest to me.” I should wager that we have experienced our rapes in much different ways. To each their own.

I only count consensual partners. Raped once. 18 total partners.

I wouldn’t count them because they were a criminal not a partner. Also why count at all?

I’m sorry but rape is not sex. It is not dishonest to not count a rape as one of your sexual experiences. Just having to try to explain this makes me want to throw up. After having sex with someone, I don’t have to go to the police, then the hospital, then counselling, then to court, then more counselling, then a…

To each her own but I would no more count that than I would count any other violent assault.

I (personally) don’t count it, even though I’ve had consensual sex with said person pre-rape. That’s a personal choice obv.

That is because I hate most humans and have only ever been in long term relationships

I think you can only use the phrase “body count” if you kill people with sex, like Lady Mary’s Death Snatch* on Downton Abbey.

“My body count? Soon to be 1, after I kill you for being such a douchebag.”

I totally look up to this woman’s daughter. I wish I had her perspective when I was her age.

If a guy asked me my ‘BODY COUNT’ I think I would seriously tell that guy to go eat a dick. How fucking dare he put it that way. Like everyone I had ever had sex with was just a body I used. That would piss me the fuck off.

I think it can be interesting to discuss your number or ballpark of a number when you are learning more about a person. Like sharing stories about whether you went to prom or what your first time was like. But the judgmental attitude is not something I’ve experienced since probably college. I think a lot of it is…

This would be quite effective were it not for the fact that “women: you have to treat them like sh*t” is the subtext for the entire Republican party.

Because women come with a used up count, as well as a use by date. How else is a man supposed to know whether his girlfriend is worth wiving?

For what it’s worth, it sounds like your eldest daughter is an intelligent, thoughtful young woman. I was so impressed by the maturity and clarity of her responses. She seems to be doing really well, and I think she’ll make an excellent grown-up.

I think I would rather subject my self to experimental torture than discuss sexual partners with my mom. One time, she tried to talk to me about the great sex she was having with her boyfriend before I had to shut her down promptly and remind her that this is not, and never will be, the kind of relationship we have. I…

I like these articles. I like how we can all be as open minded as we like but when it comes down to it, sometimes things are engrained in us. I don’t want to slut shame anyone, but sometimes I hear numbers and think HOLY SHIT. I KNOW it doesn’t matter and I’d never think a person is bad or good or whatever because of…