Please - you don’t need another therapist - you need a lawyer.

I have been dreaming all month about the people in my abusive ex’s life, (the main players in some super shitty stuff he did with people keeping secrets for him,etc.) coming to me and telling me things about the situation. They tell me in a plain, conversational manner, and the woman I think my ex was fucking was…

Misogynist porn viewers care ! That’s how they create these bizarre standards.

Take 100% of guns away from men and give them to women, no exceptions.

She definitely should have aimed 30 - 36" higher than his foot.

Take all the guns away from men and give them to women.

Persians are also prone to polycystic kidney disease, which could explain the emaciation, matting and overall poor condition = pre-existing health stuff for Sir Sorbet. There are no bloodwork results (why not ?) which would reveal more information about his health.

It sounds like the cat has feline herpes. This can manifest in recurrent upper respiratory symptoms, runny eyes, fevers, etc. There is no cure for it, though Lysine (as recommended by the vet on the discharge paper) is thought to help some. However, emaciation is not a common symptom of this.

Lessons in physical self defense won’t save you from being manipulated, coerced, gaslighted (gaslit ?) or other non-physical forms of abuse.

But...Guinevere ? (shudder)

Okay, well it took my ancient computer a LONG time to load the 88 page PDF. Many of those books were art books, and the porn that was found was pretty garden variety stuff - no child porn - though there were photos of naked children in nudist magazines and art contexts. I did not read any mentions of animal torture or…

Go have a look at the US Dept. of Justice statistics, dude. Men do the majority of killing. While this is typically often men killing other men, men kill far more women, than women killing infants, children, women and men combined in ALL scenarios. Men are responsible for more crime and assaults than women, period.…

When women kill, the most common scenario is infanticide from post partum depression, followed by child abuse. Women also kill in self defense more than they murder or slaughter.

Take all the guns away from men, today, no exceptions.

Girl, please read “Why Does He do That ?” by Lundy Bancroft. This will help you to understand.

Trashing a room is threatening behaviour and symbolic violence = abusive.

People seem unable to process that their pal is abusive, because he never abused them.

How about the responsibility of one person in a relationship to not abuse (ie threaten, hurt, scare, intimidate, etc.) the other ?

The theory of mutual combat with regards to domestic violence is questionable.

I really loved the man who abused me, who I spent almost two decades with. I have many good memories about him BUT - the scary and hurtful stuff steadily increased, like a dial being turned up. The last time I ever tried to speak with him about some practical matters I was left feeling violated and now very scared of…