Discuss your ex like they are a human being worthy of respect.

Yeah, that's realistic advice:

I dabbled with getting in shape for a few years before realizing that achieving real results requires real effort. Running farther and harder and pushing myself in the pool made all the difference. There's no substitute for cardiovascular fitness.

Dropped like 20 lbs in 2 months. Being unemployed and getting married (thanks severance) was the best thing to ever happen to my waistline.