The key thing, in my opinion, is the difference between two people mutually having sex, and one person having sex with a passive partner. Now, it’s fine if one person wants to be passive, but those are the times when it’s especially important for the initiator to verify that the passive person is consenting. You don’t…

This comment doesn’t seem to have gotten many replies, and I feel like it should. In general: no, if you’re both very drunk and you’re both participating and paying attention to whether the other person is still into it, and no one is saying “no” or “stop” or crying or going blank-faced and silent, you are not a…

I’d say “no”. I went to college at the same time and the standards were the same as you described. (ie two drunk people = it’s OK unless the woman actually says No)

No! If the women were basically awake, never said no and there was never any struggle, you’re not a rapist.

Okay, earnest question here for the women on this board: