OMG the look of concern on his face in the screenshot. LOLOLOL.

Nothing anyone has ever done or will do is as embarrassing as that tweet. Kind of comforting in a way

The “💯” is such an odd touch.

I hate that I’ve seen this

Never forget  

We can applaud her for trying, but we should also applaud those who stop trying. Because that is a courageous and valid choice as well.

Yeah, a lot of people seemed to think it was about reconciling or punishment. I did think it was probably more about not adding additional pressure and stress to a fragile person. I didn’t think about the legal rights thing and I think that’s a good point.  

That just breaks my heart. 

Counterpoint, with all due respect: we have no idea how much he appreciates her, has hurt her, or has embarrassed her. 

I think this is an important point though--she’s got financial stability and doesn’t have to be showing up for a 9-5 job or anything. That it’s so shocking to see someone famous tending to their family and related responsibilities with the myriad resources available to her maybe says something about our expectations…

When the story broke that Jennifer was dragging her feet on the divorce, my first instinct was that it has nothing to do with reconciling or punishing him. It is about having the legal right to help with rehab and medical stuff.

This, exactly. She is a key part of the story for her expertise alone. However, an additional reason to include her in the story is to examine the open question on how much compromise we should settle for when we’re talking data privacy. The story becomes second rate by not examining her dissent.

I feel like that is like...possibly prosecutable as discrimination. Wow.

Here’s what makes it even worse, from a May 2018 write up The NY Times did: “But there was a small problem: neither Mr. Mactaggart nor Mr. Arney was a privacy expert or policy wonk. So they hired Mary Stone Ross, another neighborhood friend, who worked at the Central Intelligence Agency and had been legal counsel for…

I do the same, and when I walked in someone once said “oh you’re a woman?” And never called me back. 🙃

“We talked to the men who wanted all the credit, and they didn’t talk about her, so...we good here?”

As a PR person and government in politics, I’ve gotten that version of the NYT response in many different forms. “You can’t expect us to include every single detail because some issues are so broad. We have space restrictions, you know.” Okay sure but all the flattering details you DO include somehow benefit white men…

My name was removed from the cover of a book I edited (and which had already been designed with my name on it), though the two credited editors who remained advocated for my name to be included. I was, similarly, told that paid contractors are not the same thing as series editors (who are also, umm, paid). I’m super…

It is very disappointing (and seems like he didn’t get the point) that Confessore’s response was basically “well, none of the other men mentioned her, so I didn’t think she was important.”

Really interesting story, and definitely shows the ways in which the “Great Man” narrative (i.e., the idea that social change occurs through one or two individuals alone) can so easily erase the impact of women.